Well, I am back from holidays! Finally.. But I am still in Holiday mood.. Can't seem to gear back into school mood.. But then, I think it is a matter of time, before I go full gear back into school mode..Anyway, I got my most wanted position, Form teacher of 2F. Having spent around 3/4 of a year with them, I must say that they have brought me more joy and laughter, than anger, and with addition of 4 new members, 3 of whom from my previous class, I hope that 2F will become the most vibrant class in the whole Sec 2s.
Sec 2 is an age where you start to think you are a grown up, and start turning rebellious.. I only hope to do my best to gel my class and make them achieve what they are made of. I can identify a gem when I see one, and I can see that Laziness is the only thing that is stopping them from progressing..Let us fight the lazy bug together, 2F, and strive to a good 2009. Deal or no Deal?
Monday, December 29, 2008
Sunday, December 7, 2008
Nha Trang.. Mui Ne Tmr
Now in Nha Trang, staying in a 6USD guesthouse.. Not too bad, with aircon, cable TV, and internet. haha.. Great bargain, but took us around half an hour walking around before we got to find this lobang. Anyway, we went to the long awaited MUD BATH, and it was really great hot stuff. Only one in Vietnam.. haha.. None in Singapore.. Spent around 4 hours there, doing mud therapy and natural spring water bath.. woohoo.. And how did I get there? By motorbike, which I rented for around 4 Sing Dollars.. haha.. Britmand was on my pillion, and it was really scary on the busy vietnam roads.. We passed by this accident scene where 2 bikes collided and were damaged quite badly.. But I am a lucky man.. haha.. Without license, riding on the road.. haha... Just learnt once and rode twice in Cambodia.. If my dad was to know about it, I would never be able to go travel again.. hahaha..
Ok, watching Liverpool vs Blackburn right now, and still 0 -0.. Well, should I stay up for the Man Utd match? Maybe.. Ok, time to let my guest house hosts sleep liao.. Nights..
Oh yar, wait, I am going to see Sand dunes in Mui Ne tomorrow! A sunrise tour, must be a great place, cos I saw many pictures from my friend's previous trips.. I shall take more.. haha.. Anyway, the photos are available at my Flickr account.. only 1/4 or lesser.. Anyway, I really did a lot of shopping, and Brit said that I was more of a tourist than a traveller.. Well.. I am both.. Spend when you need too, and I enjoy the bargaining process.. hehe.. Returning with all my stuff soon.
http://www.flickr.com/photos/13243680@N02/
11.10pm 6th Dec 2008 Nha Trang
Ok, watching Liverpool vs Blackburn right now, and still 0 -0.. Well, should I stay up for the Man Utd match? Maybe.. Ok, time to let my guest house hosts sleep liao.. Nights..
Oh yar, wait, I am going to see Sand dunes in Mui Ne tomorrow! A sunrise tour, must be a great place, cos I saw many pictures from my friend's previous trips.. I shall take more.. haha.. Anyway, the photos are available at my Flickr account.. only 1/4 or lesser.. Anyway, I really did a lot of shopping, and Brit said that I was more of a tourist than a traveller.. Well.. I am both.. Spend when you need too, and I enjoy the bargaining process.. hehe.. Returning with all my stuff soon.
http://www.flickr.com/photos/13243680@N02/
11.10pm 6th Dec 2008 Nha Trang
Thursday, December 4, 2008
A week done in Vietnam (Impression)
Ah, Now, the time is 8am (9am in Singapore), and I am going to move off to Hoi an soon, trying to post an entry, as it has been quite barren for the past one week. I am feeling very revitalised now after a week of travel. Thankful that I have Britmand with me, and not travelling alone. Realized how many different things we have seen, how many different places we have visited and experienced, and how many people we have met along the way. Britons, French, Aussies, and what not.. Have seen quite a few Singaporeans, some as couples, and others with their families.
I do not know the reason, but I have tried to avoid conversation with them. People say that when you are overseas, you tend to want to meet your own countrymen, and share and talk about your experiences. But, it seems that I am a different breed. When I see Singaporeans, the only thing that I always notice that they do is: COMPLAIN. Well, not that I do not, but when you are out of the country travelling, you should be appreciating the culture, the place, and all the highlights of your trip, and not spend time complaining about the stuff around you.
I am staying at a hotel named, Impression Hotel,(Coincidentally) and I am sad to say that the impression that Singaporeans have given me, when they are abroad, has never been a pleasurable one. I have met some other familes from Aussie, Family of Richard and Helen, and we had a great time together playing cards and chatting about each others' culture. We are too "proud" of ourselves, and because we do not step out so often, we tend to compare and contrast all the other things that make us feel superior. This sense of superiority is something which I have been trying to change with, as well as to try to influence others to change, since my YEP trips 2 years ago.
Step out with a humble heart and you will be rewarded in due course. Share with others and you will realize the world is filled with kind people.
4th December, Hue (Vietnam), 8.15am
I do not know the reason, but I have tried to avoid conversation with them. People say that when you are overseas, you tend to want to meet your own countrymen, and share and talk about your experiences. But, it seems that I am a different breed. When I see Singaporeans, the only thing that I always notice that they do is: COMPLAIN. Well, not that I do not, but when you are out of the country travelling, you should be appreciating the culture, the place, and all the highlights of your trip, and not spend time complaining about the stuff around you.
I am staying at a hotel named, Impression Hotel,(Coincidentally) and I am sad to say that the impression that Singaporeans have given me, when they are abroad, has never been a pleasurable one. I have met some other familes from Aussie, Family of Richard and Helen, and we had a great time together playing cards and chatting about each others' culture. We are too "proud" of ourselves, and because we do not step out so often, we tend to compare and contrast all the other things that make us feel superior. This sense of superiority is something which I have been trying to change with, as well as to try to influence others to change, since my YEP trips 2 years ago.
Step out with a humble heart and you will be rewarded in due course. Share with others and you will realize the world is filled with kind people.
4th December, Hue (Vietnam), 8.15am
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Appreciation
How much do you appreciate what others did for you? How much do you show this appreciation? Sometimes it is easier said than done. Some will give gifts, plagues, certificates as a form of recognition and appreciation, while some are done through actions. Sometimes, it is just a simple act to show appreciation to the other person.
I would like to thank all who have shown me support and rendered help for the my beginning year in WSSS.. However so, I have had my fair share of being put down by some colleagues who do not understand the simple meaning of "appreciation". I do believe that no matter how much effort one has put into doing something, he or she must be given credit for what was being done. By not showing respect to what others have done, is not only only an insult to the person, but will also make the workplace a "political warzone" where people will treat each other with resentment. I always believe this motto since I joined NPCC about 14 years ago, and that is "One for all, and all for one." Since we are working under the same roof, why can't we discuss things amicably and appreciate what everyone has contributed, no matter how small the effort is? Actually, this does not only happen in the workplace.
At home, how often do you praise your mum or dad for their cooking? How often do you thank them for ironing your clothes, washing your clothes, and caring for you? I do not do it often, and am feeling guilty for that. But that doesn't mean I do not appreciate what was done for me.
Being appreciative is actually very simple. Just a "Thank you", "Oh, well done!" will suffice..But sad to say, there are very few who actually do that, and that is because they have taken things for granted since young, or they think that the world revolves around them. I get upset when people do not appreciate what I have done, and I feel encouraged when people give me recognition for what I have done. I accept criticisms openly if I have done something wrong. Though I may be stubborn to admit it at times, but deep down I know and will learn from these mistakes.
The nature of Human beings, as the type of Singaporean portrayed in " I Not Stupid", are stingy in paying compliments to those who have performed well. Hence, more often than not, kids do not feel motivated to do better, since they feel neglected no matter how well they have done. To me, if you have done what you deserve, and if I had promised to reward you, you will get what is deserved.
I attended a class outing yesterday from the "best" class in Sec 1, but I was disappointed at how I was treated in the end. I shall not elaborate the disappointment here, as I understand that there were some misgivings among the students before I came. That aside, I must still thank them for inviting me. At least, I am one of the 2 teachers whom they invited, and I am grateful for that. Thanks Edlyn for organising the event, Lixia and Jeslyn for inviting me and most of all, Jing Xuan, the only student who thanked me for gracing the event.
One more thing that I would like to add on for my students and I hope that they learn the art of appreciation and sacrificing. When I was younger (not that I am old), I used to be the organiser for almost everything, class gatherings, outings, birthday gifts, bbqs, KTV sessions, etc. And until today, though I have relinquished my role as an organiser for some of these activities, I still cherish the times when these outings were a success.. I do not regret organising, sending countless sms, looking for places to have a great dinner together, walk around shopping malls looking for a birthday gift and booking for chalets etc. All these have brought me great memories, and great friendships.
Friendship do not come easily, if you do not want to do the "dirty job", or go through all the hassles to organise an event, then don't force yourself to do do it, cos you will not only make yourself unhappy, but also your friends too. If you want to organise something, no matter how difficult it might be, do your best and have no regrets after doing it! And last but not least, PLS SHOW YOUR APPRECIATION BY A SIMPLE "THANK YOU" FOR THE HARD WORK HE/SHE HAS PUT IN FOR ORGANISING AN OUTING.
I would like to thank all who have shown me support and rendered help for the my beginning year in WSSS.. However so, I have had my fair share of being put down by some colleagues who do not understand the simple meaning of "appreciation". I do believe that no matter how much effort one has put into doing something, he or she must be given credit for what was being done. By not showing respect to what others have done, is not only only an insult to the person, but will also make the workplace a "political warzone" where people will treat each other with resentment. I always believe this motto since I joined NPCC about 14 years ago, and that is "One for all, and all for one." Since we are working under the same roof, why can't we discuss things amicably and appreciate what everyone has contributed, no matter how small the effort is? Actually, this does not only happen in the workplace.
At home, how often do you praise your mum or dad for their cooking? How often do you thank them for ironing your clothes, washing your clothes, and caring for you? I do not do it often, and am feeling guilty for that. But that doesn't mean I do not appreciate what was done for me.
Being appreciative is actually very simple. Just a "Thank you", "Oh, well done!" will suffice..But sad to say, there are very few who actually do that, and that is because they have taken things for granted since young, or they think that the world revolves around them. I get upset when people do not appreciate what I have done, and I feel encouraged when people give me recognition for what I have done. I accept criticisms openly if I have done something wrong. Though I may be stubborn to admit it at times, but deep down I know and will learn from these mistakes.
The nature of Human beings, as the type of Singaporean portrayed in " I Not Stupid", are stingy in paying compliments to those who have performed well. Hence, more often than not, kids do not feel motivated to do better, since they feel neglected no matter how well they have done. To me, if you have done what you deserve, and if I had promised to reward you, you will get what is deserved.
I attended a class outing yesterday from the "best" class in Sec 1, but I was disappointed at how I was treated in the end. I shall not elaborate the disappointment here, as I understand that there were some misgivings among the students before I came. That aside, I must still thank them for inviting me. At least, I am one of the 2 teachers whom they invited, and I am grateful for that. Thanks Edlyn for organising the event, Lixia and Jeslyn for inviting me and most of all, Jing Xuan, the only student who thanked me for gracing the event.
One more thing that I would like to add on for my students and I hope that they learn the art of appreciation and sacrificing. When I was younger (not that I am old), I used to be the organiser for almost everything, class gatherings, outings, birthday gifts, bbqs, KTV sessions, etc. And until today, though I have relinquished my role as an organiser for some of these activities, I still cherish the times when these outings were a success.. I do not regret organising, sending countless sms, looking for places to have a great dinner together, walk around shopping malls looking for a birthday gift and booking for chalets etc. All these have brought me great memories, and great friendships.
Friendship do not come easily, if you do not want to do the "dirty job", or go through all the hassles to organise an event, then don't force yourself to do do it, cos you will not only make yourself unhappy, but also your friends too. If you want to organise something, no matter how difficult it might be, do your best and have no regrets after doing it! And last but not least, PLS SHOW YOUR APPRECIATION BY A SIMPLE "THANK YOU" FOR THE HARD WORK HE/SHE HAS PUT IN FOR ORGANISING AN OUTING.
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Another Wedding..
Cikgu (Teacher) Hayati got married last weekend. So happy for her. For that, I am going to send my greatest wishes for her through this poem that I saw during the last episode of "Golden Bride", a Korean Drama Serial that I thought was quite touching, speaking of a young Vietnamese Bride in search of a Korean Dad. Well, if you are free, go take a look. Here comes the Indiana wedding blessings:
In English:
Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for each other.
Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two persons, bu there is only one life before you.
Go now to you dwelling place, to enter into the days of your life together.
And may your days be good and long upon the earth.
In Mandarin （Simplified Chinese）,
以后两个人不再淋雨，
因为彼此会成为对方的屋顶。
以后两个人将不再受冻，
因为彼此会给对方温暖。
以后两个人将不再寂寞，
因为彼此会成为对方的伴侣。
虽然两个人有两个身躯，
但未来两个人的路上，
就只有一个人生，
就请到他们的屋子里，
请融入他们的生活里，
因为在这世界上，
他们将是永远幸福的人！
- - 印第安结婚祝贺词
In English:
Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for each other.
Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two persons, bu there is only one life before you.
Go now to you dwelling place, to enter into the days of your life together.
And may your days be good and long upon the earth.
In Mandarin （Simplified Chinese）,
以后两个人不再淋雨，
因为彼此会成为对方的屋顶。
以后两个人将不再受冻，
因为彼此会给对方温暖。
以后两个人将不再寂寞，
因为彼此会成为对方的伴侣。
虽然两个人有两个身躯，
但未来两个人的路上，
就只有一个人生，
就请到他们的屋子里，
请融入他们的生活里，
因为在这世界上，
他们将是永远幸福的人！
- - 印第安结婚祝贺词
In Chinese (Traditional):
以後兩個人將不再淋雨,
以後兩個人將不再淋雨,
因為彼此會成為對方的屋頂.
以後兩個人將不再受凍,
因為彼此會給對方溫暖.
以後兩個人將不再寂寞,
因為彼此會成為對方的伴侶.
雖然兩個人有兩個身軀,
但未來兩個人的路上,
就只有一個人生,
請進到他們的屋子裡,
請融入他們的生活裡,
因為在這世界上,
他們將是永遠幸福的人!
--印地安結婚祝賀詞
All the best to those who have just gotten married or are going to get married. As for me, haha..
All the best to those who have just gotten married or are going to get married. As for me, haha..
Monday, October 27, 2008
IF class celebration
Strange, why did 1D get the best class award when there is 1F around? Oops, 1D is my favourite class too lar.. Hmm.. Arh I know why, cos 1F keep our love to ourselves right? My dear students are all afraid to show their love to other people, especially teachers and other classmates.. Now, I really do hope that all of us can put aside all that has happened in the past year, and move on steadily to 2F and go on to clinch the "Best Class" Award, ok? I really need the class T-shirt Design. Now last thursday was the last day of school, and I am happy to see that so much food and presents were prepared in such a short time. Special Thanks to Hidayah and Lydia for preparation of food. Great Food there. To Ivan and Jaslin for getting the cake and the drinks/snacks. Thanks to the birthday presents' in charge, and thanks to all who have come to attend the birthday celebrations. Well, I noticed that some were not keen to join in and most only wanted to eat, but did not want to help to clean up!
Hey peeps, I hope everyone can take note of the following in future when we have another gathering. 1. Pls respect the food that is specially prepared for you, and finish it. 2. If we create a mess, we should clean up the mess. We do not expect others to help us clean our butts after we do our business right? (Sorry for putting it in such a crude manner..) 3. Everyone who is in the class should participate if you are part of the class, a quote from NPCC:＂One for all, All for one!" Kindly bear it in mind. 4. It is not everyday that we have such celebrations, so care for one another, if you find that someone has not eaten, pls do not be selfish, and take all the good food for yourselves, share around, and spread our love around.
Can the above be done? I believe so.. Why Cos we are 1 Fabulous.. Class blog webby: http://1f-abulous-o8.blogspot.com/
For the rest of Videos and Photos, pls visit my personal photo collection at:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/13243680@N02/
Below are the pictures and video taken:
Hey peeps, I hope everyone can take note of the following in future when we have another gathering. 1. Pls respect the food that is specially prepared for you, and finish it. 2. If we create a mess, we should clean up the mess. We do not expect others to help us clean our butts after we do our business right? (Sorry for putting it in such a crude manner..) 3. Everyone who is in the class should participate if you are part of the class, a quote from NPCC:＂One for all, All for one!" Kindly bear it in mind. 4. It is not everyday that we have such celebrations, so care for one another, if you find that someone has not eaten, pls do not be selfish, and take all the good food for yourselves, share around, and spread our love around.
Can the above be done? I believe so.. Why Cos we are 1 Fabulous.. Class blog webby: http://1f-abulous-o8.blogspot.com/
For the rest of Videos and Photos, pls visit my personal photo collection at:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/13243680@N02/
Below are the pictures and video taken:
Friday, October 24, 2008
Coincidences
巧合？何谓“巧合”？巧合是在你不经意时发生一些令你意想不到的事。有些人会把巧合误认为缘分，但人生中往往有太多巧合，所以我认为巧合是个非常微妙的东西。10月22日啊，我就度过了一个充满巧合的一个下午。
首先，我校刚完成了运动会，然后大家便从蔡厝港体育馆，走到了地铁站。然后，在第一乐广场里，我就遇到了我1D班的一群女生。真受不了，她们一直在那里吵到半死，只好破费带她们到Pizza Hut 去饱餐一顿，但事先说好，我只请那些取得了至少A2 的学生，其余的只付一半。其实我觉得1D这个班真的是一个好班，但男生平时有些好玩，要不然，肯定能够更上一层楼。吃饱了后，刚巧剩下3 片比萨（Pizza），我不忍心浪费，只好打包了，准备拿回家给老爸吃。但我又赶时间下去NIE，及乌节路去办事。
刚巧，在回家途中，我看到了我的NPCC的马来学生。于是，便问她们吃饱了没，又这么巧，她们也还没吃，于是我便把比萨给了她们，自己便到NIE去了。
所以说，人聪明，可是不要太过聪明。为什么这样说呢？那天代表部门赛跑时，因为鞋子不合适，所以坚持当一下“赤脚大仙”，想不到100米的赛程，竟然磨破了脚板，真是痛得我苦不堪言。
为什么要提到这件事呢？因为我到了NIE，在那里花上了一些时间在包扎伤口，之后在离开。想不到，离开时，竟然遇到了Justin。 我本来还想去约他一起出去吃一顿，反正难得回来遇见这位老朋友。虽然只认识短短5个多月，但在南大（NTU）住大学时，不知为何却与他特别投缘。于是，我和Justin，就站在楼梯口聊起来了。聊着、聊着，我又看到Xiaojun走过。之后，我又站在那里，与Xiaojun聊上了一会儿。遇见老朋友，能够与他们叙旧是我这个忙碌的老师难得能做到的事情。像要约朋友出门，又担心不能及时把手头上的工作完成。所以有很多人都认为老师的社交圈子很小，而我也特别珍惜与这些朋友的接触时间。
如果我没有擦伤脚，如果我没有遇到那群1D的女生，如果我没有碰到我NPCC的学生，那么，我将不会遇见我的老朋友们。这，都是巧合吧！愿有更多巧合出现在我的人生里，为我带来一些惊喜与欢愉。
首先，我校刚完成了运动会，然后大家便从蔡厝港体育馆，走到了地铁站。然后，在第一乐广场里，我就遇到了我1D班的一群女生。真受不了，她们一直在那里吵到半死，只好破费带她们到Pizza Hut 去饱餐一顿，但事先说好，我只请那些取得了至少A2 的学生，其余的只付一半。其实我觉得1D这个班真的是一个好班，但男生平时有些好玩，要不然，肯定能够更上一层楼。吃饱了后，刚巧剩下3 片比萨（Pizza），我不忍心浪费，只好打包了，准备拿回家给老爸吃。但我又赶时间下去NIE，及乌节路去办事。
刚巧，在回家途中，我看到了我的NPCC的马来学生。于是，便问她们吃饱了没，又这么巧，她们也还没吃，于是我便把比萨给了她们，自己便到NIE去了。
所以说，人聪明，可是不要太过聪明。为什么这样说呢？那天代表部门赛跑时，因为鞋子不合适，所以坚持当一下“赤脚大仙”，想不到100米的赛程，竟然磨破了脚板，真是痛得我苦不堪言。
为什么要提到这件事呢？因为我到了NIE，在那里花上了一些时间在包扎伤口，之后在离开。想不到，离开时，竟然遇到了Justin。 我本来还想去约他一起出去吃一顿，反正难得回来遇见这位老朋友。虽然只认识短短5个多月，但在南大（NTU）住大学时，不知为何却与他特别投缘。于是，我和Justin，就站在楼梯口聊起来了。聊着、聊着，我又看到Xiaojun走过。之后，我又站在那里，与Xiaojun聊上了一会儿。遇见老朋友，能够与他们叙旧是我这个忙碌的老师难得能做到的事情。像要约朋友出门，又担心不能及时把手头上的工作完成。所以有很多人都认为老师的社交圈子很小，而我也特别珍惜与这些朋友的接触时间。
如果我没有擦伤脚，如果我没有遇到那群1D的女生，如果我没有碰到我NPCC的学生，那么，我将不会遇见我的老朋友们。这，都是巧合吧！愿有更多巧合出现在我的人生里，为我带来一些惊喜与欢愉。
Sunday, October 19, 2008
WHAT HAPPENED?
Haha, Oops I shouldn't have put Caps on my title.. A lot of meanings behind the title... It can mean: What happened? Why didn't I update the blog for such a long time? What Happened to me recently? Anything fresh to share with you guys? What happened to the world lately? What is going to happen to us, with the world, US and Singapore economy going into recession? What happened to my students? Well, did something happen? Well yes, of course.. and last but not least, What happened to this chinese teacher? Why is he not using Chinese to type his blog?
Well, it seems like I do have a lot to write regarding the above questions... But due to "unforeseen" laziness, I have decided to post alternate posts in both languages to show that I can also be "effectively" bilingual. So bear with me, since the world is facing a bearish market now.. ( Sorry ar students, some of these jargons or phrases used here may be too difficult for you to understand, so I hope it provides a chance for you, yes YOU, to go look up the dictionary and learn a new word everyday..)
1st of all, would like to apologize for not updating this blog for quite some time, due to the busy term 4 where revisions, exams, marking, and scrutinising and heart bleeding comes in all at the same time, which explains for my lagginess in writing.. Finally it is coming to an end soon, end of an academic year for my students.. I still have another month to go, until I can leave the country to sort out my thoughts and really relax a bit, after such a busy half year.. I will try to update as often as I can in the upcoming days.. I hope I can internet connection to do a posting on my trips daily..I am planning to go to Hanoi - Ho Chi Minh - Siem Reap via Phomn Penn - Singapore (For Andy Lau Concert) - Diving at Phuket - Singapore - 2009! Ok.. these are my holiday plans.. sounds interesting, but for the 1st part of the trip, I have yet to find someone to go with me yet.. Haha, anyone interested?
Nothing much has happened to me. In fact, quoting what a Secondary school friend whom I have not met for some time, who "spoke" to me on facebook today, she said: "haha! my, my! u have not changed a bit! ur looks and ur crap!" So it seems like I havn't changed since I was Sec 4??? Is this good or bad? I would deem it to be a compliment, haha, since that would mean that I have either upgraded my level of crappiness over these years, and I can still humour my friends after so many years, or it can also mean that I have downgraded my level of crappiness to that of the standard of a Secondary school student, and that makes it easier to build up rapport with them.. Either one of it seems fine to me. Well, she said that my looks have not changed a bit, it could either mean that I have maintained my handsome look, or preserved my "not so good looking" side..I managed to confirm the answer at 11 plus just now, with this answer from her: " Oh yah, didn't realise ur sis is so big now! saw her photo! omg! how come so diff??? she is very pretty leh! Why are u so dark and she is so fair?" It seems like looks doesnt seem to important afterall, what is more important is that I have maintained my tanned and dark look! With that, I take it as a compliment. This is what I replied: "I have a hidden identity.. I can mix well in different countries and races, and I get discounts cos I am tanned.." Well, Seems like I like deluding myself, but well, it makes me happier.. That's what matters..
So I have not changed in terms of my looks? Well, go check out my bus pass, and you will see the difference.. Hehe, I have bloated up over the years, especially after the Army days.. So now that I have told you what has happened to me.. Let us take a look around us, and see what has actually happened.. I am not sure if you have seen glum expressions on your parents' faces lately, taken a look at the global financial situation, despite the busy exams schedule? Or do you only know that China has some tainted milk products that contain melamine, a form of substance used for making plastics, because your mum threw away all your M&Ms, and forbade you to eat "Rabbit brand" Sweets? So much has happened over the last few weeks..
If you have not noticed yet, the 4th largest investment bank in US has gone bankrupt, US govt is forking out more than 700 billion public (tax-payer) money to save the US financial markets.. (700 billion is USD $700 000 000 000, ) ; Many other governments in Europe are forkig out money to bail out their economy crisis; Singapore, as well as many countries in the world has gone into recession, which would mean retrenchment, pay cuts, lower year end bonuses, and many more financial disasters coming up..Iceland has gone bankrupt, if you realised, this is the 1st time a country has gone bankrupt.. Read the below and you will realize how damaging the effect is..
Finally after much "pushing" by some of my students, I finally set my heart to update my blog.. yay! Underlined words, do go and check dictionary!
Well, it seems like I do have a lot to write regarding the above questions... But due to "unforeseen" laziness, I have decided to post alternate posts in both languages to show that I can also be "effectively" bilingual. So bear with me, since the world is facing a bearish market now.. ( Sorry ar students, some of these jargons or phrases used here may be too difficult for you to understand, so I hope it provides a chance for you, yes YOU, to go look up the dictionary and learn a new word everyday..)
1st of all, would like to apologize for not updating this blog for quite some time, due to the busy term 4 where revisions, exams, marking, and scrutinising and heart bleeding comes in all at the same time, which explains for my lagginess in writing.. Finally it is coming to an end soon, end of an academic year for my students.. I still have another month to go, until I can leave the country to sort out my thoughts and really relax a bit, after such a busy half year.. I will try to update as often as I can in the upcoming days.. I hope I can internet connection to do a posting on my trips daily..I am planning to go to Hanoi - Ho Chi Minh - Siem Reap via Phomn Penn - Singapore (For Andy Lau Concert) - Diving at Phuket - Singapore - 2009! Ok.. these are my holiday plans.. sounds interesting, but for the 1st part of the trip, I have yet to find someone to go with me yet.. Haha, anyone interested?
Nothing much has happened to me. In fact, quoting what a Secondary school friend whom I have not met for some time, who "spoke" to me on facebook today, she said: "haha! my, my! u have not changed a bit! ur looks and ur crap!" So it seems like I havn't changed since I was Sec 4??? Is this good or bad? I would deem it to be a compliment, haha, since that would mean that I have either upgraded my level of crappiness over these years, and I can still humour my friends after so many years, or it can also mean that I have downgraded my level of crappiness to that of the standard of a Secondary school student, and that makes it easier to build up rapport with them.. Either one of it seems fine to me. Well, she said that my looks have not changed a bit, it could either mean that I have maintained my handsome look, or preserved my "not so good looking" side..I managed to confirm the answer at 11 plus just now, with this answer from her: " Oh yah, didn't realise ur sis is so big now! saw her photo! omg! how come so diff??? she is very pretty leh! Why are u so dark and she is so fair?" It seems like looks doesnt seem to important afterall, what is more important is that I have maintained my tanned and dark look! With that, I take it as a compliment. This is what I replied: "I have a hidden identity.. I can mix well in different countries and races, and I get discounts cos I am tanned.." Well, Seems like I like deluding myself, but well, it makes me happier.. That's what matters..
So I have not changed in terms of my looks? Well, go check out my bus pass, and you will see the difference.. Hehe, I have bloated up over the years, especially after the Army days.. So now that I have told you what has happened to me.. Let us take a look around us, and see what has actually happened.. I am not sure if you have seen glum expressions on your parents' faces lately, taken a look at the global financial situation, despite the busy exams schedule? Or do you only know that China has some tainted milk products that contain melamine, a form of substance used for making plastics, because your mum threw away all your M&Ms, and forbade you to eat "Rabbit brand" Sweets? So much has happened over the last few weeks..
If you have not noticed yet, the 4th largest investment bank in US has gone bankrupt, US govt is forking out more than 700 billion public (tax-payer) money to save the US financial markets.. (700 billion is USD $700 000 000 000, ) ; Many other governments in Europe are forkig out money to bail out their economy crisis; Singapore, as well as many countries in the world has gone into recession, which would mean retrenchment, pay cuts, lower year end bonuses, and many more financial disasters coming up..Iceland has gone bankrupt, if you realised, this is the 1st time a country has gone bankrupt.. Read the below and you will realize how damaging the effect is..
A billion is a difficult number to visualize, let’s put a billion into perspective:
A billion minutes ago, Jesus was alive.
A billion hours ago, our ancestors were living in the Stone Age.
How long would it take to count to one billion?
If you count one number a second without stopping until you reach a billion. That task would take you 31 years, 259 days, 1 hours, 46 minutes, and 40 seconds.
US National Debt Facts
Every 8 hours and 20 minutes, the U.S. Government spends another billion dollars.
Of course, the current public debt is well over $8.3 trillion dollars.
Now, to put it simply, how has it affected you, my dear students? Can you imagine your pocket money goes down to $2 a day? That was the kind of allowance that I had during my secondary school days which was not too long ago (Ok lar, 10 years only, not very long, chicken rice was minimum $1.50 per plate) ..i see many of you coming to school with your wallets packed with $50 notes every monday. All the canteen vendors complained to me for having to bring spare loose change with them to change. Well, this is a difficult and trying time for your parents, so you may be scolded if you request to buy an expensive computer game, or go for rebonding, when they are in the office waiting to get sacked..My dear ladies and gentlemen, if you are sensible enough, do save up more money, especially during this period of "rainy season".. This whole global financial crisis will be raining cats and dogs for at least a year, before it can recover.. So, you should know what to do, my dear intelligent and sensible ladies and gentlemen.
Now allow me to share some personal feelings here..I thank those who have put in additional efforts in their End of Year Examinations..You should have reaped your harvest if you have put in effort throughout the year. I would especially like to commend Kelvin from my form class, as he has done exceptionally well, to deserve to get himself a chance to be promoted to the Express Stream..He came to me in term 3 with a clear goal in mind, and I hope that next monday's promotion exercise, he would have his wish fulfiled. Many have shown me that they have improved, and I want to tell you that: " GOOD JOB! You have done me and your parents proud. Keep it up, and you can do better!"
For those who know that they haven't been putting in enough efforts, try harder next year. Though I do feel a little disappointed in my Express class, yet I know that they have put in considerable efforts and feel very disappointed with the results too, especially the gals. Well for those who did not do as well, Laoshi has absolute trust and confidence in all of you, and I really hope that you guys can work harder next year..Not even next year, you can start from these holidays.. You must enjoy and learn at the same time, if not you will slacken down in no time. Learn from your past mistakes, be humble and acknowledge your setbacks. Only then, you can regain your confidence, and do better.. To me, my express class, 1D is my cream crop, though they may not have met mark this year, yet, the day will come when we all rejoice..
As for my form class, 1F, it has not been a smooth sailing term 3 and 4 to us.. Different degree of disciplinary cases arose, and we have almost every kind of possible cases that has happened. I want all of you to remember what I said: " Forgive and Forget" is the greatest virtue that I think should be present in everyone of us, cos we are "Full Of Love" Right? Let us start afresh from next year together, and we shall all work hard!
Finally things are coming to a close and the final year is going to be concluded after next weekend. I hope that better days are coming, and we will come back toether again next year..
Keep a lookout for future posts.. Tired liao.. Spent more than 1.5 hours typing..
Finally after much "pushing" by some of my students, I finally set my heart to update my blog.. yay! Underlined words, do go and check dictionary!
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
My Cambodia Trip
It has since been one week since I came back to Singapore.. The pace is too fast to catch up.. Too fast.. Anyway, I attended a podcast workshop today and did up this video. But was not able to save using the best format available, due to time constraint. But I did realize the goodness of a MAC system. Probably that will be my next toy. So now, here below is a summary of the trip, and I think it is called a vodcast. A simple one.. Enjoy..
Sunday, August 31, 2008
At the airport
Many ask me what is my purpose of going overseas at this point of time? I said I needed to take time off the heavy work load and to do a recce for my friend who is leading a team over to Cambodia. I may be joining this team in December when they are going over to Cambodia for another Youth Expedition Project. Well, when I checked in 15 minutes ago, I saw yet another bunch of young teens from an institution in Singapore going over for another YEP. How do I know? Cos it is written all over their shirt!
After embarking on my 4th trip, I am seriously a little tired in leading yet another team over. It is always so mentally and physically straining, especially when you are in the teaching profession. So yar, I went for a KTV session before I came to the airport, and my friends from PA X were commenting on how my bag pack looked the same as what I brought for 22 days, and I just laughed it off. Who would have known that it contained some of my most valuable stuffs? Computer manuals for my Cambodian counterpart, loads of assignments/ compositions from my dearest students (seems like I am going to enjoy soo much there, haha) I promised myself not to return with any of the assignments unmarked!).. , my laptop and the DVDs that I promised to burn for my friends.. There seems to be so much to accomplish within these 5 days of trip, would I be able to complete all?
I would be revisiting one of the villages that I have gone to, and I will also be dropping by a more rural area where I will be looking out for the suitable accomodations, transport, food for a next project in one of the more untouched places in Cambodia. When I say "untouched", it means that the children there have not been exposed much to foreign culture, or have not seen strangers other than their own villagers. These are the places that probably need help, but I do believe this Team from NIE, Project Builders of Hope, will be able to achieve so much more other than just any other projects. I do hope that they will be able to apply what they have learnt in the schools that they will be posted to in future. There are so many things that we can learn from our Cambodian counterparts, and every visit there, I would be looking forward to learning something from them. Hopefully, I manage to visit some orphanages and try to come up with a rough proposal for my future projects. I do hope to bring my students over one of these days, probably from next year onwards to do a project there. But of course all these would need support from the school. Probably I will start from NPCC..So stay Tuned.
Anyway, I would try to post at least an entry every day to keep you guys updated of what is happening in Cambodia. If there is chance, I will take fotos too.. Good Morning Singapore, Time to wake up, it is 5.20am on a Sunday Morning!
After embarking on my 4th trip, I am seriously a little tired in leading yet another team over. It is always so mentally and physically straining, especially when you are in the teaching profession. So yar, I went for a KTV session before I came to the airport, and my friends from PA X were commenting on how my bag pack looked the same as what I brought for 22 days, and I just laughed it off. Who would have known that it contained some of my most valuable stuffs? Computer manuals for my Cambodian counterpart, loads of assignments/ compositions from my dearest students (seems like I am going to enjoy soo much there, haha) I promised myself not to return with any of the assignments unmarked!).. , my laptop and the DVDs that I promised to burn for my friends.. There seems to be so much to accomplish within these 5 days of trip, would I be able to complete all?
I would be revisiting one of the villages that I have gone to, and I will also be dropping by a more rural area where I will be looking out for the suitable accomodations, transport, food for a next project in one of the more untouched places in Cambodia. When I say "untouched", it means that the children there have not been exposed much to foreign culture, or have not seen strangers other than their own villagers. These are the places that probably need help, but I do believe this Team from NIE, Project Builders of Hope, will be able to achieve so much more other than just any other projects. I do hope that they will be able to apply what they have learnt in the schools that they will be posted to in future. There are so many things that we can learn from our Cambodian counterparts, and every visit there, I would be looking forward to learning something from them. Hopefully, I manage to visit some orphanages and try to come up with a rough proposal for my future projects. I do hope to bring my students over one of these days, probably from next year onwards to do a project there. But of course all these would need support from the school. Probably I will start from NPCC..So stay Tuned.
Anyway, I would try to post at least an entry every day to keep you guys updated of what is happening in Cambodia. If there is chance, I will take fotos too.. Good Morning Singapore, Time to wake up, it is 5.20am on a Sunday Morning!
Sunday, August 24, 2008
Time Flies
Time waits for no man. Everyone knows this, yet few knows how to make full use of it. I have a little joke which has left a deep impression on me.
Ok, back to the topic. "Teaching saps your mind, but fills your soul." One of my friend put this phrase on his MSN nick, and I found it appropriate.. When you are teaching, you will not realize how time passes so much faster.. How I wish I could have 48 hours instead of 24. Well, in the end, it is still a numbers game. Even if I had 48 hours, I would have wished for more. Men is greedy. So in the end, I can only blame our ancestors for regulating the number of hours in a day. Why do we even have days, hours, minutes, seconds? Indeed this is a tough question. As I am lying down thinking of this question, I ask myself what have I achieved in this 26 years of life? Some say that blogs are a waste of time, so am I wasting my time writing all these? Time is a commodity that we cannot stop it from flowing away, and as I type out these words, watching these words appear word by word on my screen, time flows past me. Tick tock, Tick tock... there it goes, even for you, my dear readers, you have spent at least 5 minutes of your precious time reading my post. And for that, I thank you.. Thanks to all the supporters coming to tag my blog every now and then.
If you intend to race with time, you can never win it. So the next question will be how do you make full use of it? If I have a choice, I would have hoped that time can reverse and I can make better use of it. Men is lazy. That is why we need deadlines..If we are not given deadlines, god knows when we will be able to finish the job! However, having said so, you either choose to cherish time or see it flow by.
Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, and Nobody.
This is the story about 4 people named: Everybody, Somebody,
Anybody, and Nobody.
- There was an important job to be done and Everybody was
sure Somebody would do it.
- Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it.
- Somebody got angry about that because it was Everybody's job.
- Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but Nobody realized
that Everybody wouldn't do it.
- It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody
did what Anybody could have done.
Ok, back to the topic. "Teaching saps your mind, but fills your soul." One of my friend put this phrase on his MSN nick, and I found it appropriate.. When you are teaching, you will not realize how time passes so much faster.. How I wish I could have 48 hours instead of 24. Well, in the end, it is still a numbers game. Even if I had 48 hours, I would have wished for more. Men is greedy. So in the end, I can only blame our ancestors for regulating the number of hours in a day. Why do we even have days, hours, minutes, seconds? Indeed this is a tough question. As I am lying down thinking of this question, I ask myself what have I achieved in this 26 years of life? Some say that blogs are a waste of time, so am I wasting my time writing all these? Time is a commodity that we cannot stop it from flowing away, and as I type out these words, watching these words appear word by word on my screen, time flows past me. Tick tock, Tick tock... there it goes, even for you, my dear readers, you have spent at least 5 minutes of your precious time reading my post. And for that, I thank you.. Thanks to all the supporters coming to tag my blog every now and then.
If you intend to race with time, you can never win it. So the next question will be how do you make full use of it? If I have a choice, I would have hoped that time can reverse and I can make better use of it. Men is lazy. That is why we need deadlines..If we are not given deadlines, god knows when we will be able to finish the job! However, having said so, you either choose to cherish time or see it flow by.
Sunday, August 17, 2008
Happy Birthday? Random thoughts
Happy Birthday to you, Happy birthday to you, Happy Birthday to Jenny, Happy Birthday to you! Happy 24th Birthday, dear sis..
All right, I shall start by wishing my dear sister a happy birthday. Another year older.. Come to think of it, 24 years since birth, everything seemed to have passed by in a flash. She is a big girl now, matured enough to make decisions on her own. How time flies. Dear sister, you have a totally different character from me, and you are someone who wants to earn big bucks, and is really "stingy". But it is a good thing cos you always make plans for the things you buy and for your future.. I hope you do. Anyway, you are someone who can't step out of the house without putting on makeup, so haha, I guess, it is a girl's right and privilege to make men wait.. Oops, no longer a girl, a lady.. Yar, in terms of size, I am almost double your size, and 10 shades tanner than you are. Just look at our family photo and you will know.. The guy beside her is her bf..
Strange that I can only remember the times which I bullied her and made her cry, and when she asked me if it was a right choice to just have one boyfriend in her life, since she thought that she should be given a chance to go out and know more guys before making a decision. It was a tough one, I thought, and so, I told her that whether you want to trial and error or stick to your choice, it is your personal decision. The most important thing is to ask yourself if you are happy with this person, and if it is, then why change?
These days, when I see my Sec 1s, almost every class, my dear students will come and tell me their "secrets", like this person "stead" with who, and who likes who etc... Though I know that they may not be matured to really know what is "LOVE", but it is difficult to drive through this idea. The media has portrayed such images that break-ups are very common in life, and you must really go and trial and error before finding the right one. But, how do you know he is the right one? Maybe the one after is a better one, or the previous one was already the best, but you chose to regret after breaking up? When you try to tell these students that they are still too young to experience what is love, they will then ask you back, " How do you know we do not know what is love?" Arh, indeed I do not know, cos even I am looking for an answer.
I see students happily "steadying" together, one who said that there is a guy who tried to ask her to stead for 4 times, and finally they got together for 1 day, before the girl decides that it is still better to stay as friends. Then I have students of different classes "steadying" together, and students who break and reconcile, break and reconcile. Arh... indeed Secondary school life is indeed a place where it is full of drama, just like TV.. I have at least 3 pairs of friends who have been together during Sec School and have since gotten happily married, and I am really happy for them. Those whom I have not discovered, may be more..
If people a decade ago can start to fall in love with one another, and eventually gotten married, why are we stopping the youths today from falling in love? Arh, there is a catch to this question. Responsible behaviour.. To fall in love, means to love someone responsibly, thinking of all consequences before he or she acts. As teachers, we have the responsibility to let students know that getting into a relationship does not mean getting too intimate..It is good to give it a try in Secondary school, but if you find someone better in your JC or Poly, or ITE, then what would you do? Break up and move on in life? Well, life is a contradiction and change is indeed the most constant thing in life. So, I do not have advice for you, you have to make the choice.
For me, if I know that there will not be any progress, I will put a stop to it, before I move on. You must know what you want before you can move on. If I know that if this is not the kind of life we can spend together, or the woman that I can love for at least the next half of my life, then I think I should give up. And all these, you learn from experience. And how do you learn? From advice, from others' experience and of course, from your own experiences. Love is irrational, or rather it is blind to make you not think rationally. Often than not, when you fall into it, and you know that it is not the path that you want, you will still choose to be blinded by it, rather than to face the momentarily pain after a break up. Sometimes, things are easier said than done. I can only hope that people will cherish whatever happiness that they already have and appreciate it. If you do not feel happy, move on. Happiness is never too far from you... : )
All right, I shall start by wishing my dear sister a happy birthday. Another year older.. Come to think of it, 24 years since birth, everything seemed to have passed by in a flash. She is a big girl now, matured enough to make decisions on her own. How time flies. Dear sister, you have a totally different character from me, and you are someone who wants to earn big bucks, and is really "stingy". But it is a good thing cos you always make plans for the things you buy and for your future.. I hope you do. Anyway, you are someone who can't step out of the house without putting on makeup, so haha, I guess, it is a girl's right and privilege to make men wait.. Oops, no longer a girl, a lady.. Yar, in terms of size, I am almost double your size, and 10 shades tanner than you are. Just look at our family photo and you will know.. The guy beside her is her bf..
Strange that I can only remember the times which I bullied her and made her cry, and when she asked me if it was a right choice to just have one boyfriend in her life, since she thought that she should be given a chance to go out and know more guys before making a decision. It was a tough one, I thought, and so, I told her that whether you want to trial and error or stick to your choice, it is your personal decision. The most important thing is to ask yourself if you are happy with this person, and if it is, then why change?
These days, when I see my Sec 1s, almost every class, my dear students will come and tell me their "secrets", like this person "stead" with who, and who likes who etc... Though I know that they may not be matured to really know what is "LOVE", but it is difficult to drive through this idea. The media has portrayed such images that break-ups are very common in life, and you must really go and trial and error before finding the right one. But, how do you know he is the right one? Maybe the one after is a better one, or the previous one was already the best, but you chose to regret after breaking up? When you try to tell these students that they are still too young to experience what is love, they will then ask you back, " How do you know we do not know what is love?" Arh, indeed I do not know, cos even I am looking for an answer.
I see students happily "steadying" together, one who said that there is a guy who tried to ask her to stead for 4 times, and finally they got together for 1 day, before the girl decides that it is still better to stay as friends. Then I have students of different classes "steadying" together, and students who break and reconcile, break and reconcile. Arh... indeed Secondary school life is indeed a place where it is full of drama, just like TV.. I have at least 3 pairs of friends who have been together during Sec School and have since gotten happily married, and I am really happy for them. Those whom I have not discovered, may be more..
If people a decade ago can start to fall in love with one another, and eventually gotten married, why are we stopping the youths today from falling in love? Arh, there is a catch to this question. Responsible behaviour.. To fall in love, means to love someone responsibly, thinking of all consequences before he or she acts. As teachers, we have the responsibility to let students know that getting into a relationship does not mean getting too intimate..It is good to give it a try in Secondary school, but if you find someone better in your JC or Poly, or ITE, then what would you do? Break up and move on in life? Well, life is a contradiction and change is indeed the most constant thing in life. So, I do not have advice for you, you have to make the choice.
For me, if I know that there will not be any progress, I will put a stop to it, before I move on. You must know what you want before you can move on. If I know that if this is not the kind of life we can spend together, or the woman that I can love for at least the next half of my life, then I think I should give up. And all these, you learn from experience. And how do you learn? From advice, from others' experience and of course, from your own experiences. Love is irrational, or rather it is blind to make you not think rationally. Often than not, when you fall into it, and you know that it is not the path that you want, you will still choose to be blinded by it, rather than to face the momentarily pain after a break up. Sometimes, things are easier said than done. I can only hope that people will cherish whatever happiness that they already have and appreciate it. If you do not feel happy, move on. Happiness is never too far from you... : )
Monday, August 11, 2008
Money Not enough 2 and Batman: The Dark Knight
These are the 2 movies that I watched recently, and are movies that I would recommend if anyone would want to catch movies which sets your mind thinking. 1st of all, for Money Not Enough 2, another local production directed by our Jack Neo, and I must say that he has once again produced another movie that makes you think critically about the problems of our society, the place that we live in everyday. Alongside the movie, societal problems arose, problems that many would not want to confront face to face, problems which expose the ugly side of Singaporeans or rather normal human beings.
Some of these problems, like throwing our parents in old folks home because we only have time to make money and not time to take care of them; like parents sacrificing their time, money, effort, dignity, and even life to save their children, to help them overcome their difficulties; like wives and mothers staying under one roof, like sons fighting to cast their mother away even though they know that it is wrong to do so, like sons reprimanding their mother when she is begging for money to help them tide over the financial crisis, like children nowadays treat their parents like maids, like children who do not understand dialects, and do not grow up in a Chinese Speaking family, like people can do anything illegal to make money, like rich men who would want to squander their money outside looking for women, when they have a beautiful wife waiting at home..
When did people start to think that English is a more superior language than their mother tongue? When did people start to think that making money is more important than family ties? When did people start to regard the roots of all evil - money, as the only one important thing revolving around their daily lives, and forgetting about their loved ones around them? Why is it that divorce cases are on the rise every year? Why do people take things for granted? (hospitals must have enough blood supply for the patients) Why do people not treasure what is around them (family ties, love) until it is no longer around? Why do people even allow themselves to continue to make mistakes when they know that it is wrong to do so?
Because humans are flawed when they are born? Laziness, greed, timid to assume responsibility, and many others....Whatever this movie has shown, it has not only tried to "complain" about what the government has done so far, in fact it has surpassed that level, if you are still thinking that Jack Neo is just trying to portray the Singaporean image of always complaining and complaining about Singapore's government and its system. What do you think would do good even if he has complained in the movie? Do you think the government will change because of this? Then, if not what do you think has attracted you to watch the movie? I think that anyone who is staying in this fast-paced city should take a look at this movie.
Money not enough, true. So is money not enough for use, or money not enough to buy back what is lost? As the saying goes, You do not bring anything to this world when you are born, and you do not take anything with you when you depart from it. This is something so true that you can't deny, unless you are really "born with a silver spoon" in your mouth, which may happen if your mum happened to swallow it when she was pregnant. (Scientifically impossible).. Well, people laugh when I tell them that I teared twice during the show, which I am baffled. Why can't a man cry? Is it a woman's right? haha..
There are many deep truths that are portrayed in the movie, many of which are problems we do not want to face, but at the end of the day, the hard fact that slaps in your face will still be the same: You need to solve the problems that you created, and lamenting over them is not going to help. So pls cherish whatever you have.
Batman is another movie that uncovers the dark side of human beings. Everyone needs a hero, but only when they are in need of help, and when it doesn't clash with their personal interests. In times when humans need to make a choice, it is often when selfishness will start to set in, and they will try to push the blame to others, and also not trusting others. At the end of the day, the true hero emerges as the dark knight bearing the mistakes of others, letting others put the blame on him for crimes he has not committed. What Batman has done is only to help to preserve the peace of Gotham City, but its people has turned their backs to this hero. From hero to villian, Joker has made him see the loneliness of being a hero, and the sacrifices that he has to make to save his city. Indeed, Joker does makes people see that life is nothing but a joke, but Batman chose to be the butt of these jokes, sacrificing his name in search of the goodness in human beings.
Do catch these 2 movies, if you have the time. Batman is still available in malaysia though. haha..
Some of these problems, like throwing our parents in old folks home because we only have time to make money and not time to take care of them; like parents sacrificing their time, money, effort, dignity, and even life to save their children, to help them overcome their difficulties; like wives and mothers staying under one roof, like sons fighting to cast their mother away even though they know that it is wrong to do so, like sons reprimanding their mother when she is begging for money to help them tide over the financial crisis, like children nowadays treat their parents like maids, like children who do not understand dialects, and do not grow up in a Chinese Speaking family, like people can do anything illegal to make money, like rich men who would want to squander their money outside looking for women, when they have a beautiful wife waiting at home..
When did people start to think that English is a more superior language than their mother tongue? When did people start to think that making money is more important than family ties? When did people start to regard the roots of all evil - money, as the only one important thing revolving around their daily lives, and forgetting about their loved ones around them? Why is it that divorce cases are on the rise every year? Why do people take things for granted? (hospitals must have enough blood supply for the patients) Why do people not treasure what is around them (family ties, love) until it is no longer around? Why do people even allow themselves to continue to make mistakes when they know that it is wrong to do so?
Because humans are flawed when they are born? Laziness, greed, timid to assume responsibility, and many others....Whatever this movie has shown, it has not only tried to "complain" about what the government has done so far, in fact it has surpassed that level, if you are still thinking that Jack Neo is just trying to portray the Singaporean image of always complaining and complaining about Singapore's government and its system. What do you think would do good even if he has complained in the movie? Do you think the government will change because of this? Then, if not what do you think has attracted you to watch the movie? I think that anyone who is staying in this fast-paced city should take a look at this movie.
Money not enough, true. So is money not enough for use, or money not enough to buy back what is lost? As the saying goes, You do not bring anything to this world when you are born, and you do not take anything with you when you depart from it. This is something so true that you can't deny, unless you are really "born with a silver spoon" in your mouth, which may happen if your mum happened to swallow it when she was pregnant. (Scientifically impossible).. Well, people laugh when I tell them that I teared twice during the show, which I am baffled. Why can't a man cry? Is it a woman's right? haha..
There are many deep truths that are portrayed in the movie, many of which are problems we do not want to face, but at the end of the day, the hard fact that slaps in your face will still be the same: You need to solve the problems that you created, and lamenting over them is not going to help. So pls cherish whatever you have.
Batman is another movie that uncovers the dark side of human beings. Everyone needs a hero, but only when they are in need of help, and when it doesn't clash with their personal interests. In times when humans need to make a choice, it is often when selfishness will start to set in, and they will try to push the blame to others, and also not trusting others. At the end of the day, the true hero emerges as the dark knight bearing the mistakes of others, letting others put the blame on him for crimes he has not committed. What Batman has done is only to help to preserve the peace of Gotham City, but its people has turned their backs to this hero. From hero to villian, Joker has made him see the loneliness of being a hero, and the sacrifices that he has to make to save his city. Indeed, Joker does makes people see that life is nothing but a joke, but Batman chose to be the butt of these jokes, sacrificing his name in search of the goodness in human beings.
Do catch these 2 movies, if you have the time. Batman is still available in malaysia though. haha..
Monday, July 28, 2008
溏心风暴
何谓溏心风暴？"溏心"指的是鲍鱼，有溏心的鲍鱼就算是一等一的好鲍鱼了。
而剧名中“溏心”二字意思是说一个温馨的家庭就好像内藏溏心的上等鲍鱼一样，不是轻易得来，必须经过多重工序，加入不同材料与心机，耐着性子才能煮出来。也牵连出现代人往往着眼于金钱利益，从而轻视亲情的社会现象。
这部电视连续剧终于播放完毕。我非常喜欢《溏心风暴》，尤其是它戏中的歌曲，非常抒情、感人。最喜欢当中的“MyLove will get you Home", 及"Vincent"。听说已经推出了第二部由同一班演员演出的《溏心风暴之家好月圆》，即将在新加坡的DVD店可找到！太高兴了。我的学生买来看完后，就会借我！哈哈！
话说会来，我最喜欢这个故事中的大妈，她不仅是家中的守护天使，还有着非常锐利的目光，可以清楚地看透人的本性。看着大结局时，虽然有一些仓促，但是却令我感动万分，还流下了男儿泪。哈哈，但我不觉得丢脸！其实我是个蛮感性的人，有时看到那些令人感动的戏时，都会不自觉流下眼泪。这套连续剧的曲折性、及演员的演绎真的让我折服。新加坡演员何时才能演到这种出神入化的程度呢？
常在心（故事中的女主角之一）是另一个令我欣赏的故事角色。我欣赏她对真爱的执著，也常在想自己什么时候也能像她身边的男生一样找到我的“常在心”呢？“还可以”（Pretty Ok, 故事中的男主角之一），最终守得云开见月明，最后与常在心在一起。 我觉得能为自己喜欢的人默默付出，无条件地不要求任何回报，只希望对方开心，保持笑容，是一件多么伟大的事。明明喜欢，但却只能做最要好的朋友，真是令人。。。所以说，故事的结局都是皆大欢喜的，尽管在现实生活中不可能像在电视连续剧中有着完美的结局。
人生如果没有遗憾，就枉费此生了。有遗憾不要紧，最重要的是自己觉得所作的事是正确的。我在刚过去的生日里许了两个不同的愿望，其中一个是为学生许的。真是令人感动，他们虽然被其他老师视为顽劣不堪，但我却喜欢教他们，而他们也买了个蛋糕为我庆祝生日；第一次有学生为我庆祝生日，因此我也为他们许了个愿。他们说：“说出来就不灵了。”所以，我就不说了。
另一个愿望，在家里及与朋友庆祝时许下了这样一个愿望。很简单，也很老土。希望她能永远快乐。这个“她”，可能是个虚拟的她，并还没出现，也可能是我曾经或现在心仪的女生。好了，Emo 后，是时候面对现实了。去改功课了！下次见。希望不会太久。
在这里附上这首歌《My Heart will get you on》 的歌词，一起唱吧：
插曲：my love will get you home
原唱：Christine Glass
歌词
If you wander off too far
My love will get you home
If you follow the wrong star
My love will get you home
If you ever find yourself
Lost and all alone
Get back on your feet and think of me
My love will get you home Boy
My love will get you home
If the bright lights blinds your eyes
My love will get you home
If your troubles break your stride
My love will get you home
If you ever find yourself
Lost and all alone
Get back on your feet and think of me
My love will get you home Boy
My love will get you home
If you ever feel ashamed
My love will get you home
If its only you to blame
My love will get you home
而剧名中“溏心”二字意思是说一个温馨的家庭就好像内藏溏心的上等鲍鱼一样，不是轻易得来，必须经过多重工序，加入不同材料与心机，耐着性子才能煮出来。也牵连出现代人往往着眼于金钱利益，从而轻视亲情的社会现象。
这部电视连续剧终于播放完毕。我非常喜欢《溏心风暴》，尤其是它戏中的歌曲，非常抒情、感人。最喜欢当中的“MyLove will get you Home", 及"Vincent"。听说已经推出了第二部由同一班演员演出的《溏心风暴之家好月圆》，即将在新加坡的DVD店可找到！太高兴了。我的学生买来看完后，就会借我！哈哈！
话说会来，我最喜欢这个故事中的大妈，她不仅是家中的守护天使，还有着非常锐利的目光，可以清楚地看透人的本性。看着大结局时，虽然有一些仓促，但是却令我感动万分，还流下了男儿泪。哈哈，但我不觉得丢脸！其实我是个蛮感性的人，有时看到那些令人感动的戏时，都会不自觉流下眼泪。这套连续剧的曲折性、及演员的演绎真的让我折服。新加坡演员何时才能演到这种出神入化的程度呢？
常在心（故事中的女主角之一）是另一个令我欣赏的故事角色。我欣赏她对真爱的执著，也常在想自己什么时候也能像她身边的男生一样找到我的“常在心”呢？“还可以”（Pretty Ok, 故事中的男主角之一），最终守得云开见月明，最后与常在心在一起。 我觉得能为自己喜欢的人默默付出，无条件地不要求任何回报，只希望对方开心，保持笑容，是一件多么伟大的事。明明喜欢，但却只能做最要好的朋友，真是令人。。。所以说，故事的结局都是皆大欢喜的，尽管在现实生活中不可能像在电视连续剧中有着完美的结局。
人生如果没有遗憾，就枉费此生了。有遗憾不要紧，最重要的是自己觉得所作的事是正确的。我在刚过去的生日里许了两个不同的愿望，其中一个是为学生许的。真是令人感动，他们虽然被其他老师视为顽劣不堪，但我却喜欢教他们，而他们也买了个蛋糕为我庆祝生日；第一次有学生为我庆祝生日，因此我也为他们许了个愿。他们说：“说出来就不灵了。”所以，我就不说了。
另一个愿望，在家里及与朋友庆祝时许下了这样一个愿望。很简单，也很老土。希望她能永远快乐。这个“她”，可能是个虚拟的她，并还没出现，也可能是我曾经或现在心仪的女生。好了，Emo 后，是时候面对现实了。去改功课了！下次见。希望不会太久。
在这里附上这首歌《My Heart will get you on》 的歌词，一起唱吧：
插曲：my love will get you home
原唱：Christine Glass
歌词
If you wander off too far
My love will get you home
If you follow the wrong star
My love will get you home
If you ever find yourself
Lost and all alone
Get back on your feet and think of me
My love will get you home Boy
My love will get you home
If the bright lights blinds your eyes
My love will get you home
If your troubles break your stride
My love will get you home
If you ever find yourself
Lost and all alone
Get back on your feet and think of me
My love will get you home Boy
My love will get you home
If you ever feel ashamed
My love will get you home
If its only you to blame
My love will get you home
Sunday, June 29, 2008
贴标签？Labeling?
English Translation below
你们在什么时候会看到一件东西上贴着标签呢？可能多数在罐头、日常用品、各类食物等“身上”看到标签吧。贴标签是为了让人们知道所吃、用、买的东西到底包 含了什么，是否对自己有利或有害，甚至是做为相互比较的依据。那么，我想借助这个我们天天都会接触到的看到的标签，来谈谈我们每天如何也用着这些标签来 “贴”在我们周围的人的身上。
每一天，我们在上班、上学的途中会遇到一些陌生的脸孔，或一些熟悉但却认不得的脸，或一些非常熟，简直就已经熟透了的朋友的面孔。不管是哪一张脸，我们的 心里都已经在不知不觉下，为对方贴上了一种标签。你们不相信吗？让我举几个例子。你有没有在路上看过染金发的男生，或抽烟的男人，然后第一时间认定他们一 定是什么三教九流的人物。如果对方穿西装、打领带，可能会认为他是个斯文败类，或心中可惜为什么这么个大好青年会因抽烟而断送美好的将来（因抽烟会给予人 们不好的印象）。你是否也有看过穿迷你裙或穿着性感的女生嘴里叼着一根烟，然后与男朋友楼楼抱抱？你是否有一个你本来以为是个品行良好、很负责任的朋友， 而你也为他/她贴上了好好先生或你最要好的朋友等“标签”，但他却做出一些令你意想不到的事情，或一些与你的理念背道而驰的事情来，让你非常失望？
当学生不交功课时，你是否也认为他们懒惰呢？当学生不把衣服穿好，你是否认为他们的品行有问题？当学生染头发（金色或红色，不是黑色！）、抽烟、打耳洞 （男生）、穿着露骨（露股沟、性感），你是否认为他们是坏学生，是无可救药了呢？当学生在班上和你顶嘴，你是否认为他们没有口德？可能现在的你还没有发 现，其实每个人的心中都有一把尺，去衡量其他人，但可惜的是，在对其他人品头论足的同时，我们忘了要自我反省自己的缺点，自己的过错。
当我们为其他人贴上标签后，就很难摒除这种偏见。就比如我有很多朋友因为中国人来新加坡与他们争夺念读大学的位子，在课业方面又名列前茅，所有的A +、A都被他们扫空，以致使自己不能以优秀的成绩毕业。又有一些则受不了中国人、越南人、及一些其他国籍的学生所用的口音，而对他们进行排斥。其实，新加 坡人有一种很奇怪的心理，我们有一种自认比其他人优秀，比其他人更高一等，高高在上的心理，因此当我们面对竞争时，往往由于养尊处优了太久，就会开始埋怨 政府。我们曾几何时会对自己的不够用功，去进行反省，为我们所拥有的一切珍惜而感到满足呢？当我们在为其他人贴上标签的同时，是否会想到对方的感受，是否 会顾及到他们的面子？
人靠衣装，佛靠金装。我们可能外表打扮得很好看，但若内心却一直在检视别人的过错，而不自我反省，那我们将在思想上停滞不前。我看到一班的学生一直在嘲笑、作弄班上一名稍微弱智的学生，让我觉得异常痛心。尽管我尝试与他们讲道理，但由于他们还是普通工艺的学生，他们还很难明白自己行为对于同学所造成的伤害。这种心灵上的伤害比肉体的伤害还要严重，还要深远。我刚看了一个中国中央电视台的节目，题目为“少年英雄”的一个颁奖礼，为的是肯定一群在四川大地震中奋不顾身救出同学的事迹。其中一位身患残疾的学生尤其感动了我，而我也不止一次流下眼泪。我再看看我们的学生，然后想象如果学校发生火灾，到底有几个会伸出援手来救出和自己同窗的同学呢？可能人要到了最危险，生死关头的那一刹那，才能真正发挥出自己内心深藏的“人”/“仁”性吧？这也是为什么有一位中四生告诉我，他认为这个世界的人都没有爱心。那，我问他，什么是爱？你们说呢? 我将尝试在下一篇给一个答案。
我为什么会写这篇短文呢？前天当我经过地铁站时，看到一群青少年穿着光鲜，似乎是中学生，晚上了还在外溜达，而其后我又看到另一群青年，女生在抽烟，男生则蓄长发，说话粗鲁。在我心里，我觉得他们似乎已经学坏了。在那一刹那，不知为何，我又问自己这样一个问题：为什么我要以这种眼光来看待他们呢？他们又没有打家劫舍，做出丧尽天良的事，只不过是一些受不了诱惑的青年想要享受周末夜晚而已。他们有自己的自由，一种无拘无束的自由，这就是年轻的本钱，做事不需付出太多的考虑，太多的责任。每一个人都有他们的强项，都有他们生存的价值，只要尝试去看到他们好的地方，我们看东西的方法将会不同，也将活得更快乐。
讲个小“笑话”。有一位学生告诉我，班上的一位女生认为我长得蛮帅的，让我听了也不禁开心了一会儿。仔细想想，可能不同人的有不同的审美观吧，因此只要你告诉自己，你是最帅最美的，说不定有一天就有人会来夸你了。记得，不要去看别人的缺点，尝试去发掘他们的优点，你将发现世界更美丽。
English Translation:
When and where do you see a label? Maybe mostly on canned food, daily necessities,and all sorts of food products. Labels are there to let us know what we are eating, using or buying, and whether the ingredients/ components are useful or harmful to our body, or even for comparison purposes. So, I would like to use this thing that we come into contact everyday - LABELS, to talk about how we actually use labels to tag the people surrounding us everyday.
Everyday, while we are on our way to work, to school, we always see new faces, or familiar yet unrecognizable faces, or very familiar faces of friends. Whichever face we see, we will unknowingly tag the person with a label. You don't believe me? Let me give a few examples. Have you ever seen boys with dyed hair, or are smoking, and at the 1st instance deduce that they must belong to some gangs or some bad boys. If he is wearing a suit, with a tie, hen maybe you will think that he is a scum in society, or wonder why has this young man waste his future away, smoking his life away. (Smoking leaves a bad impression to others) Have you also seen skimpily dressed girls in mini skirts, with a stick of cigarette between their lips, and hugging and kissing their boyfriends? Have you ever had a friend when you thought that he was someone of great conduct and a responsible friend, and you tagged him/her as a role model or your best friend, only to find out one day that he did something beyond your expectations, or done something that is contrary to your beliefs, and made you disappointed?
When students do not hand in their work, do you think that they are lazy? When students do not wear their uniforms appropriately, do you think that their conduct is flawed? When students dye their hair (gold or red, not black pls!), smoke, pierce their ears (guys), dress up scantily (revealing or sexy), did you think that they are ill disciplined students who are beyond redemption? When students talk back to you in class, do you think that they do not have manners? Maybe you haven't realized, actually in everyone's heart, we have a ruler to judge others, but sad to say, this ruler is not used to judge our own character. When we are criticizing others, we often forget to look back at our mistakes and reflect on them.
When we start labeling others, it will be difficult to erase this biasness. Just like I have many friends in University who have deep biasness with the Chinese from China PRC, as they come to Singapore to fight for the limited vacancies in University intake, and also doing so well in their academics, sweeping away all the A+ and As from the Singaporean students, resulting them from being unable to graduate from University with flying colours. Another bunch of friends just cannot stand the accent of Chinese PRCs, Vietnamese, and some of the accents from other nationalities, and so ostracizing them in the process. Actually, we Singaporeans have a very funny mentality, and that is, we have a mentality of being more superior than others, especially than people from other nationalities. Hence when we meet with obstacles or problems, due to being in our comfort zone for too long, we tend to complain about our government and everything around us. When do we ever blame ourselves for our complacency, lack of diligence, and do self reflection or feel contented with what we already have? When we are labelling others, do we ever think about their feelings, or care about their "face"?
Men rely on their clothes to look good, likewise for the mighty Buddha coated in gold. We can look nice on the outlook, but if we continue to judge and criticize others' mistakes, and do not do self reflection, then our mindset will remain stagnant. I saw students in one of my classes mocking and making fun of a student who is slightly mentally handicapped, and that made me feel very sad. As much as I tried to talk sense to them, but because they are from the normal Technical stream, it is difficult to make them realize the damage that was inflicted on the student. The emotional distress is more serious than physical pain inflicted and it can have a lasting effect. I was just watching a programme on a Chinese Channel (CCTV 4), and it was a show called "Young Heroes", celebrating the brave deeds of the young students during the Sichuan Earthquake. There was this girl who was handicapped, and she managed to save a friend out of the rubble and carry her despite being hit by rocks, and it deeply moved me. Among other touching stories, I teared than once upon the recount of their brave deeds. Then I look at Singaporean students, and imagined that there was a huge fire in school, how many would actually lend a helping hand to save friends or classmates who have been studying with them? Maybe humans will only react and show their true humanity / benovelence, during the most critical moment in life, when they face life and death. This may also be why one of my Sec 4 students told me that he thinks that there is no love in this world. Then, I asked him, what is love to you? Hey readers, what do you think? I will try to provide an answer in the next post.
Now, why am I writing all these? The day before, I was passing by the MRT, and I saw this bunch of young people wearing very "Ah beng" clothes, looking like Secondary school students, still out wandering around late at night; Then I saw another bunch of teenagers, girls smoking, guys with long hair, speaking vulgarities. In my heart, I thought that they have already turned bad. But at the same time, which I do not know why, I asked myself another question: Why am I passing such judgments on these kids? They do not rob, do not steal or kill, in fact, it is just some teenagers who cannot stand the lure of materialism, and whom wanted to enjoy their weekend night. They have their own freedom, an unrestrained freedom, and that is the biggest capital of being young. When you are doing something, you do not consider much, do not pay attention to how much responsibility you need to bear, nor consider about the consequences. Everyone has his own strengths, and a purpose to why they are here in society. As long as you take on a positive mentality to discover their strengths, the things that you see will be different, and you shall also live a more fulfilling and happier life.
Just a "joke" before I end. A student told me yesterday, taht her friend thought that I am actually quite handsome, and that did brighten my day. Come to think of it, different people have different perspective to the definition of "handsome" or "pretty", so you just have to tell yourself that you are the best, and who knows, in time to come, someone will be there to appreciate your beauty. So remember, do not look at others' flaws or shortcomings, try to uncover their merits and strengths, and you will discover a more beautiful world around you.
你们在什么时候会看到一件东西上贴着标签呢？可能多数在罐头、日常用品、各类食物等“身上”看到标签吧。贴标签是为了让人们知道所吃、用、买的东西到底包 含了什么，是否对自己有利或有害，甚至是做为相互比较的依据。那么，我想借助这个我们天天都会接触到的看到的标签，来谈谈我们每天如何也用着这些标签来 “贴”在我们周围的人的身上。
每一天，我们在上班、上学的途中会遇到一些陌生的脸孔，或一些熟悉但却认不得的脸，或一些非常熟，简直就已经熟透了的朋友的面孔。不管是哪一张脸，我们的 心里都已经在不知不觉下，为对方贴上了一种标签。你们不相信吗？让我举几个例子。你有没有在路上看过染金发的男生，或抽烟的男人，然后第一时间认定他们一 定是什么三教九流的人物。如果对方穿西装、打领带，可能会认为他是个斯文败类，或心中可惜为什么这么个大好青年会因抽烟而断送美好的将来（因抽烟会给予人 们不好的印象）。你是否也有看过穿迷你裙或穿着性感的女生嘴里叼着一根烟，然后与男朋友楼楼抱抱？你是否有一个你本来以为是个品行良好、很负责任的朋友， 而你也为他/她贴上了好好先生或你最要好的朋友等“标签”，但他却做出一些令你意想不到的事情，或一些与你的理念背道而驰的事情来，让你非常失望？
当学生不交功课时，你是否也认为他们懒惰呢？当学生不把衣服穿好，你是否认为他们的品行有问题？当学生染头发（金色或红色，不是黑色！）、抽烟、打耳洞 （男生）、穿着露骨（露股沟、性感），你是否认为他们是坏学生，是无可救药了呢？当学生在班上和你顶嘴，你是否认为他们没有口德？可能现在的你还没有发 现，其实每个人的心中都有一把尺，去衡量其他人，但可惜的是，在对其他人品头论足的同时，我们忘了要自我反省自己的缺点，自己的过错。
当我们为其他人贴上标签后，就很难摒除这种偏见。就比如我有很多朋友因为中国人来新加坡与他们争夺念读大学的位子，在课业方面又名列前茅，所有的A +、A都被他们扫空，以致使自己不能以优秀的成绩毕业。又有一些则受不了中国人、越南人、及一些其他国籍的学生所用的口音，而对他们进行排斥。其实，新加 坡人有一种很奇怪的心理，我们有一种自认比其他人优秀，比其他人更高一等，高高在上的心理，因此当我们面对竞争时，往往由于养尊处优了太久，就会开始埋怨 政府。我们曾几何时会对自己的不够用功，去进行反省，为我们所拥有的一切珍惜而感到满足呢？当我们在为其他人贴上标签的同时，是否会想到对方的感受，是否 会顾及到他们的面子？
人靠衣装，佛靠金装。我们可能外表打扮得很好看，但若内心却一直在检视别人的过错，而不自我反省，那我们将在思想上停滞不前。我看到一班的学生一直在嘲笑、作弄班上一名稍微弱智的学生，让我觉得异常痛心。尽管我尝试与他们讲道理，但由于他们还是普通工艺的学生，他们还很难明白自己行为对于同学所造成的伤害。这种心灵上的伤害比肉体的伤害还要严重，还要深远。我刚看了一个中国中央电视台的节目，题目为“少年英雄”的一个颁奖礼，为的是肯定一群在四川大地震中奋不顾身救出同学的事迹。其中一位身患残疾的学生尤其感动了我，而我也不止一次流下眼泪。我再看看我们的学生，然后想象如果学校发生火灾，到底有几个会伸出援手来救出和自己同窗的同学呢？可能人要到了最危险，生死关头的那一刹那，才能真正发挥出自己内心深藏的“人”/“仁”性吧？这也是为什么有一位中四生告诉我，他认为这个世界的人都没有爱心。那，我问他，什么是爱？你们说呢? 我将尝试在下一篇给一个答案。
我为什么会写这篇短文呢？前天当我经过地铁站时，看到一群青少年穿着光鲜，似乎是中学生，晚上了还在外溜达，而其后我又看到另一群青年，女生在抽烟，男生则蓄长发，说话粗鲁。在我心里，我觉得他们似乎已经学坏了。在那一刹那，不知为何，我又问自己这样一个问题：为什么我要以这种眼光来看待他们呢？他们又没有打家劫舍，做出丧尽天良的事，只不过是一些受不了诱惑的青年想要享受周末夜晚而已。他们有自己的自由，一种无拘无束的自由，这就是年轻的本钱，做事不需付出太多的考虑，太多的责任。每一个人都有他们的强项，都有他们生存的价值，只要尝试去看到他们好的地方，我们看东西的方法将会不同，也将活得更快乐。
讲个小“笑话”。有一位学生告诉我，班上的一位女生认为我长得蛮帅的，让我听了也不禁开心了一会儿。仔细想想，可能不同人的有不同的审美观吧，因此只要你告诉自己，你是最帅最美的，说不定有一天就有人会来夸你了。记得，不要去看别人的缺点，尝试去发掘他们的优点，你将发现世界更美丽。
English Translation:
When and where do you see a label? Maybe mostly on canned food, daily necessities,and all sorts of food products. Labels are there to let us know what we are eating, using or buying, and whether the ingredients/ components are useful or harmful to our body, or even for comparison purposes. So, I would like to use this thing that we come into contact everyday - LABELS, to talk about how we actually use labels to tag the people surrounding us everyday.
Everyday, while we are on our way to work, to school, we always see new faces, or familiar yet unrecognizable faces, or very familiar faces of friends. Whichever face we see, we will unknowingly tag the person with a label. You don't believe me? Let me give a few examples. Have you ever seen boys with dyed hair, or are smoking, and at the 1st instance deduce that they must belong to some gangs or some bad boys. If he is wearing a suit, with a tie, hen maybe you will think that he is a scum in society, or wonder why has this young man waste his future away, smoking his life away. (Smoking leaves a bad impression to others) Have you also seen skimpily dressed girls in mini skirts, with a stick of cigarette between their lips, and hugging and kissing their boyfriends? Have you ever had a friend when you thought that he was someone of great conduct and a responsible friend, and you tagged him/her as a role model or your best friend, only to find out one day that he did something beyond your expectations, or done something that is contrary to your beliefs, and made you disappointed?
When students do not hand in their work, do you think that they are lazy? When students do not wear their uniforms appropriately, do you think that their conduct is flawed? When students dye their hair (gold or red, not black pls!), smoke, pierce their ears (guys), dress up scantily (revealing or sexy), did you think that they are ill disciplined students who are beyond redemption? When students talk back to you in class, do you think that they do not have manners? Maybe you haven't realized, actually in everyone's heart, we have a ruler to judge others, but sad to say, this ruler is not used to judge our own character. When we are criticizing others, we often forget to look back at our mistakes and reflect on them.
When we start labeling others, it will be difficult to erase this biasness. Just like I have many friends in University who have deep biasness with the Chinese from China PRC, as they come to Singapore to fight for the limited vacancies in University intake, and also doing so well in their academics, sweeping away all the A+ and As from the Singaporean students, resulting them from being unable to graduate from University with flying colours. Another bunch of friends just cannot stand the accent of Chinese PRCs, Vietnamese, and some of the accents from other nationalities, and so ostracizing them in the process. Actually, we Singaporeans have a very funny mentality, and that is, we have a mentality of being more superior than others, especially than people from other nationalities. Hence when we meet with obstacles or problems, due to being in our comfort zone for too long, we tend to complain about our government and everything around us. When do we ever blame ourselves for our complacency, lack of diligence, and do self reflection or feel contented with what we already have? When we are labelling others, do we ever think about their feelings, or care about their "face"?
Men rely on their clothes to look good, likewise for the mighty Buddha coated in gold. We can look nice on the outlook, but if we continue to judge and criticize others' mistakes, and do not do self reflection, then our mindset will remain stagnant. I saw students in one of my classes mocking and making fun of a student who is slightly mentally handicapped, and that made me feel very sad. As much as I tried to talk sense to them, but because they are from the normal Technical stream, it is difficult to make them realize the damage that was inflicted on the student. The emotional distress is more serious than physical pain inflicted and it can have a lasting effect. I was just watching a programme on a Chinese Channel (CCTV 4), and it was a show called "Young Heroes", celebrating the brave deeds of the young students during the Sichuan Earthquake. There was this girl who was handicapped, and she managed to save a friend out of the rubble and carry her despite being hit by rocks, and it deeply moved me. Among other touching stories, I teared than once upon the recount of their brave deeds. Then I look at Singaporean students, and imagined that there was a huge fire in school, how many would actually lend a helping hand to save friends or classmates who have been studying with them? Maybe humans will only react and show their true humanity / benovelence, during the most critical moment in life, when they face life and death. This may also be why one of my Sec 4 students told me that he thinks that there is no love in this world. Then, I asked him, what is love to you? Hey readers, what do you think? I will try to provide an answer in the next post.
Now, why am I writing all these? The day before, I was passing by the MRT, and I saw this bunch of young people wearing very "Ah beng" clothes, looking like Secondary school students, still out wandering around late at night; Then I saw another bunch of teenagers, girls smoking, guys with long hair, speaking vulgarities. In my heart, I thought that they have already turned bad. But at the same time, which I do not know why, I asked myself another question: Why am I passing such judgments on these kids? They do not rob, do not steal or kill, in fact, it is just some teenagers who cannot stand the lure of materialism, and whom wanted to enjoy their weekend night. They have their own freedom, an unrestrained freedom, and that is the biggest capital of being young. When you are doing something, you do not consider much, do not pay attention to how much responsibility you need to bear, nor consider about the consequences. Everyone has his own strengths, and a purpose to why they are here in society. As long as you take on a positive mentality to discover their strengths, the things that you see will be different, and you shall also live a more fulfilling and happier life.
Just a "joke" before I end. A student told me yesterday, taht her friend thought that I am actually quite handsome, and that did brighten my day. Come to think of it, different people have different perspective to the definition of "handsome" or "pretty", so you just have to tell yourself that you are the best, and who knows, in time to come, someone will be there to appreciate your beauty. So remember, do not look at others' flaws or shortcomings, try to uncover their merits and strengths, and you will discover a more beautiful world around you.
Friday, June 27, 2008
开学第5天！
（English translation below)
今天是开学第5 天。其实还有6个小时才正式起床上班。在这个新的学期里，我负责教1D，1F，1H，3F/G， 及4D，而我也负责学生警察的课外活动职务。最令我遗憾的是无法继续在2B班执教，但我告诉他们只要有缘，我们一定能在他们中三时再见！这次的班级最有挑战性的自然是中三的普通班，因为他们绝对不普通。哈哈。说真的，只是与他们接触两天，我已经能深深体会到新加坡教育制度下，一群被“遗弃”孩子的感受。因此我新的座右铭是：天底下没有教不好的学生，也没有坏学生，只有不能教好学生的老师。我希望我在教育界的日子里，能一直秉持这个座右铭，并且希望能“挽救”一些面对问题的学生。我发现其实中三的这群学生知道他们自己要什么，只是他们已经被“遗忘”了太久，没有人尝试去接触他们，去启发他们，去触碰他们的心灵。
可能我是个“怪胎”，喜欢享受与学生接触的时间，也喜欢陶醉于与他们欢笑。有个学生在MSN上告诉我，在这个假期会来后，发现我比较开朗，比较多笑容，希望我能继续保持如此。哈哈。可能多笑能让我显得更年轻吧！有位中四的学生说我讲话时比较紧张，好像没有准备。其实我要告诉她，这正是现在很多新加坡的华文老师所面对的一个问题。表面上，我们似乎是双语“精英”，但其实很多时候，我们说话时都会“词穷”，意思是想不到恰当的词语来表达我们想说的。为什么会这样呢？因为我们也是这个不完美的教育制度下的产物。其实，当我们在面对朋友时，常常在言语中中英混杂，甚至加入一些新加坡式英语（Singlish）。在面对学生时，要顾及到言语上的妥当性，及正确性，有时学过的知识一时无法显现在脑海中，因此说话时会有一些迟缓。因此，我很庆幸学生再次举出了我这个缺点，我也希望长时间的磨练下，能够逐渐适应这样的环境。
再者，有几位2B的学生都问我为什么没有教他们，也向我诉苦，发牢骚。我很高兴他们期盼我再去教他们，但事与愿违，但我还是希望他们能够继续用功学习。
其实在实习的日子里，我得到了“Credit”（分级为 Pass， Credit， Distinction），已经算是很不错了，因为我整班37位同学中，只有一位取得 Distinction（特优），因此我很满意了。但，由于我在教育学院（NIE）时，实在对他们的“硬邦邦”的授课方式不感兴趣，因此也没有多下苦功，取得了个及格而已。心中虽然有一些遗憾，但我认为我的使命在两年前已经不是在读书而是在启发人，因此我在2007年刚进入NIE 时，就接下了本地社区服务（Gesl）及海外社区服务的领队职务（Leader）。在这段期间，我很惭愧地称自己为NIE中文班的班长，因为我真的象是没什么贡献，除了举办一些庆生活动和卡拉OK时光外，也不是个很好的榜样。哈哈。在此，要感谢我的搭档，忆雅，为班上付出了不少努力。今年初，在我的实习期间，我又得准备及率领一队30人的国大学生到柬埔寨去当了22天的义工,因此我很高兴在学校里的表现没有受到太大的影响。可能这也是我为何在班上笑不出来的原因吧！其实，有很多朋友质疑我为何当老师，因为我太喜欢开玩笑了，不像会认真和严肃。哈哈。其实他们也是开玩笑的啦。至此，我两年来的4趟海外义工服务，也算是告一段落了。
接下来，我只希望能举办多一些到海外学习的义工学生团，让他们更能珍惜自己的人生。因此经过了这一些日子，我也得出一个结论：我不一定是一个最好的语文老师，但我要做到一个能让学生记得的老师，记得我曾经教导他们如何走自己人生的道路，就像在多个老师中，我印象最深刻的还是我的中学华文老师。希望我能达到这个目标。我也很高兴我得学生有抽空时时来看看我是否有新的帖子。谢谢你们的支持。我一定会继续在博客上分享我的心得，敬请留意。我看我明天再翻译为英语吧！好累啊！
English Translation:
Today is the 5th day of school, actually it is another 6 hours more before I wake up. In this new term, I am in charge of teaching classes Sec 1D, 1F, 1H, 3F/G, and 4 D, and am also in charge of NPCC as my CCA. The most regretful thing is not being able to continue teaching class 2B, but I have to tell them that if fate decrees, we will meet again next year in Sec 3. The most challenging class assigned to me would be the Sec 3 normal academic class, because they are really not "normal" kids. haha, seriously speaking, just 2 days of interaction with them, have made me realize under the current education system, how a bunch of "rejected" kids feel. Henceforth, my new resolution is: There are no unteachable or bad students, there are only teachers who cannot teach their students well. I hope that in my days as a teacher, I can continue to pursue this resolution and fulfil this calling to help as many "problem" kids out there. I realize that this bunch of Sec 3 students under me know what they want, it is just that they have been "forgotten" for too long, as not many tried to interact with them, inspire them or even touch their hearts.
Maybe I am a "freak", cos I enjoy the interaction time with students and like to indulge in having fun with them. A student told me on MSN that after the holidays, I looked happier with more laughters and smiles, and she hoped that I can maintain this look. haha, maybe laughing out more can make me look younger. A Sec 4 student told me that I seem nervous when I speak, and sounded like I did not prepare my work. In fact, I want to tell her that this is one of the serious problems faced by Singaporean Chinese Teachers (Locally born and bred teachers). On the surface, we may seem like bilingual elites, but at times, when we speak, we are actually stuck at certain phrases, and need to think of suitable sentences, or words before we deliver what we want to say. In short, we take a longer time to think and process what we need to say as compared to teachers from China. Why is it the case? Actually, if you notice, when we speak to friends, we mix English and Chinese, and at times, Singlish. But when we are facing and talking to students, we need to gauge the appropriateness, and the correctness of the things we say, and sometimes, the knowledge that has been learnt just doesn't pop up in your brain, so we pause more often when we speak. Hence I am very happy that my students pointed out this flaw of mine, and I hope that in time to come, I can gradually adapt to the chinese speaking environment and speak more fluently.
Next, a few students from 2B has asked me why I wasn't teaching them, and complained to me. I am glad to know that they had wished that I could continue teaching them, but since it is not heaven's will that we meet this term, I can only hope that they continue to work hard and strive for better results.
Actually, I got a "Credit" (Grades are Pass, Credit, Distinction) for my practicum, and I am very happy with this results, because among my whole class of 37 NIE batchmates, only 1 got distinction, hence I am grateful for this grade. But, because I really could not get used to the "boring" teaching methods in the courses, hence I did not really put in a lot of effort to study, thus only getting an overall pass for my NIE life. Though there are some regrets in my heart, but I thought that since my resolution since 2 years ago has changed from studying to excel in academics to nurturing and inspiring people, when I entered NIE in 2007, I took on the leader's role for a local community project under NIE - GESL, and also led a team to an overseas community trip. In my NIE life, I feel ashamed to call myself the class representative of my class, cos I really did not seem to have made any contributions, other than organising some birthday parties and Karaoke Sessions, and I was not a good example in class. Haha, hence, I would like to thank my partner, Yiya, for contributing her efforts for the class. Without her, we would have missed out a lot. Once again, thank you. At the beginning of 2008, when I was on practicum, I had to juggle with leading a team of 30 NUS students with my buddy, over to Cambodia to fulfil 22 days of community service work, hence I am also glad that this has not affected much in my overall performance in school. Maybe this was also one of the reasons why I had not been able to smile or laugh out in class in the last term. Actually many friends questioned about me being a teacher, because I really love to joke and crap around, and don't look like the serious type who can teach in class. haha, actually they are also joking lar. Henceforth until now, my 2 years of 4 overseas expeditions have finally come to an end as I embark on a new journey in teaching.
In the following days, I hope to lead more teams of students overseas, to let them learn about others and cherish or appreciate their life more. Hence, after all these time, I also came to a conclusion: I may not be the best Chinese language teacher, but I must be a teacher that will be remembered by students, remembered for how I used to guide them in their lives, just like in the many teachers that I used to have, the one that left a lasting impression was still my Chinese teacher.I hope I can attain this goal. I am also very happy to know that my students still take time to check out my blog. Tks for all your support, and I will continue to share my thoughts online. Do keep a lookout, and I will do the translation tomorrow. So tired. ( In fact, today is already saturday. haha)
今天是开学第5 天。其实还有6个小时才正式起床上班。在这个新的学期里，我负责教1D，1F，1H，3F/G， 及4D，而我也负责学生警察的课外活动职务。最令我遗憾的是无法继续在2B班执教，但我告诉他们只要有缘，我们一定能在他们中三时再见！这次的班级最有挑战性的自然是中三的普通班，因为他们绝对不普通。哈哈。说真的，只是与他们接触两天，我已经能深深体会到新加坡教育制度下，一群被“遗弃”孩子的感受。因此我新的座右铭是：天底下没有教不好的学生，也没有坏学生，只有不能教好学生的老师。我希望我在教育界的日子里，能一直秉持这个座右铭，并且希望能“挽救”一些面对问题的学生。我发现其实中三的这群学生知道他们自己要什么，只是他们已经被“遗忘”了太久，没有人尝试去接触他们，去启发他们，去触碰他们的心灵。
可能我是个“怪胎”，喜欢享受与学生接触的时间，也喜欢陶醉于与他们欢笑。有个学生在MSN上告诉我，在这个假期会来后，发现我比较开朗，比较多笑容，希望我能继续保持如此。哈哈。可能多笑能让我显得更年轻吧！有位中四的学生说我讲话时比较紧张，好像没有准备。其实我要告诉她，这正是现在很多新加坡的华文老师所面对的一个问题。表面上，我们似乎是双语“精英”，但其实很多时候，我们说话时都会“词穷”，意思是想不到恰当的词语来表达我们想说的。为什么会这样呢？因为我们也是这个不完美的教育制度下的产物。其实，当我们在面对朋友时，常常在言语中中英混杂，甚至加入一些新加坡式英语（Singlish）。在面对学生时，要顾及到言语上的妥当性，及正确性，有时学过的知识一时无法显现在脑海中，因此说话时会有一些迟缓。因此，我很庆幸学生再次举出了我这个缺点，我也希望长时间的磨练下，能够逐渐适应这样的环境。
再者，有几位2B的学生都问我为什么没有教他们，也向我诉苦，发牢骚。我很高兴他们期盼我再去教他们，但事与愿违，但我还是希望他们能够继续用功学习。
其实在实习的日子里，我得到了“Credit”（分级为 Pass， Credit， Distinction），已经算是很不错了，因为我整班37位同学中，只有一位取得 Distinction（特优），因此我很满意了。但，由于我在教育学院（NIE）时，实在对他们的“硬邦邦”的授课方式不感兴趣，因此也没有多下苦功，取得了个及格而已。心中虽然有一些遗憾，但我认为我的使命在两年前已经不是在读书而是在启发人，因此我在2007年刚进入NIE 时，就接下了本地社区服务（Gesl）及海外社区服务的领队职务（Leader）。在这段期间，我很惭愧地称自己为NIE中文班的班长，因为我真的象是没什么贡献，除了举办一些庆生活动和卡拉OK时光外，也不是个很好的榜样。哈哈。在此，要感谢我的搭档，忆雅，为班上付出了不少努力。今年初，在我的实习期间，我又得准备及率领一队30人的国大学生到柬埔寨去当了22天的义工,因此我很高兴在学校里的表现没有受到太大的影响。可能这也是我为何在班上笑不出来的原因吧！其实，有很多朋友质疑我为何当老师，因为我太喜欢开玩笑了，不像会认真和严肃。哈哈。其实他们也是开玩笑的啦。至此，我两年来的4趟海外义工服务，也算是告一段落了。
接下来，我只希望能举办多一些到海外学习的义工学生团，让他们更能珍惜自己的人生。因此经过了这一些日子，我也得出一个结论：我不一定是一个最好的语文老师，但我要做到一个能让学生记得的老师，记得我曾经教导他们如何走自己人生的道路，就像在多个老师中，我印象最深刻的还是我的中学华文老师。希望我能达到这个目标。我也很高兴我得学生有抽空时时来看看我是否有新的帖子。谢谢你们的支持。我一定会继续在博客上分享我的心得，敬请留意。我看我明天再翻译为英语吧！好累啊！
English Translation:
Today is the 5th day of school, actually it is another 6 hours more before I wake up. In this new term, I am in charge of teaching classes Sec 1D, 1F, 1H, 3F/G, and 4 D, and am also in charge of NPCC as my CCA. The most regretful thing is not being able to continue teaching class 2B, but I have to tell them that if fate decrees, we will meet again next year in Sec 3. The most challenging class assigned to me would be the Sec 3 normal academic class, because they are really not "normal" kids. haha, seriously speaking, just 2 days of interaction with them, have made me realize under the current education system, how a bunch of "rejected" kids feel. Henceforth, my new resolution is: There are no unteachable or bad students, there are only teachers who cannot teach their students well. I hope that in my days as a teacher, I can continue to pursue this resolution and fulfil this calling to help as many "problem" kids out there. I realize that this bunch of Sec 3 students under me know what they want, it is just that they have been "forgotten" for too long, as not many tried to interact with them, inspire them or even touch their hearts.
Maybe I am a "freak", cos I enjoy the interaction time with students and like to indulge in having fun with them. A student told me on MSN that after the holidays, I looked happier with more laughters and smiles, and she hoped that I can maintain this look. haha, maybe laughing out more can make me look younger. A Sec 4 student told me that I seem nervous when I speak, and sounded like I did not prepare my work. In fact, I want to tell her that this is one of the serious problems faced by Singaporean Chinese Teachers (Locally born and bred teachers). On the surface, we may seem like bilingual elites, but at times, when we speak, we are actually stuck at certain phrases, and need to think of suitable sentences, or words before we deliver what we want to say. In short, we take a longer time to think and process what we need to say as compared to teachers from China. Why is it the case? Actually, if you notice, when we speak to friends, we mix English and Chinese, and at times, Singlish. But when we are facing and talking to students, we need to gauge the appropriateness, and the correctness of the things we say, and sometimes, the knowledge that has been learnt just doesn't pop up in your brain, so we pause more often when we speak. Hence I am very happy that my students pointed out this flaw of mine, and I hope that in time to come, I can gradually adapt to the chinese speaking environment and speak more fluently.
Next, a few students from 2B has asked me why I wasn't teaching them, and complained to me. I am glad to know that they had wished that I could continue teaching them, but since it is not heaven's will that we meet this term, I can only hope that they continue to work hard and strive for better results.
Actually, I got a "Credit" (Grades are Pass, Credit, Distinction) for my practicum, and I am very happy with this results, because among my whole class of 37 NIE batchmates, only 1 got distinction, hence I am grateful for this grade. But, because I really could not get used to the "boring" teaching methods in the courses, hence I did not really put in a lot of effort to study, thus only getting an overall pass for my NIE life. Though there are some regrets in my heart, but I thought that since my resolution since 2 years ago has changed from studying to excel in academics to nurturing and inspiring people, when I entered NIE in 2007, I took on the leader's role for a local community project under NIE - GESL, and also led a team to an overseas community trip. In my NIE life, I feel ashamed to call myself the class representative of my class, cos I really did not seem to have made any contributions, other than organising some birthday parties and Karaoke Sessions, and I was not a good example in class. Haha, hence, I would like to thank my partner, Yiya, for contributing her efforts for the class. Without her, we would have missed out a lot. Once again, thank you. At the beginning of 2008, when I was on practicum, I had to juggle with leading a team of 30 NUS students with my buddy, over to Cambodia to fulfil 22 days of community service work, hence I am also glad that this has not affected much in my overall performance in school. Maybe this was also one of the reasons why I had not been able to smile or laugh out in class in the last term. Actually many friends questioned about me being a teacher, because I really love to joke and crap around, and don't look like the serious type who can teach in class. haha, actually they are also joking lar. Henceforth until now, my 2 years of 4 overseas expeditions have finally come to an end as I embark on a new journey in teaching.
In the following days, I hope to lead more teams of students overseas, to let them learn about others and cherish or appreciate their life more. Hence, after all these time, I also came to a conclusion: I may not be the best Chinese language teacher, but I must be a teacher that will be remembered by students, remembered for how I used to guide them in their lives, just like in the many teachers that I used to have, the one that left a lasting impression was still my Chinese teacher.I hope I can attain this goal. I am also very happy to know that my students still take time to check out my blog. Tks for all your support, and I will continue to share my thoughts online. Do keep a lookout, and I will do the translation tomorrow. So tired. ( In fact, today is already saturday. haha)
Thursday, June 12, 2008
我回来了。
是的，我回来了，已经有两天了。有一种淡淡的失落感。不知为什么每一次在一个海外工程完成后，都会有这种感觉。这次尤其强烈，就是不知为什么？说起来，我这次率领的这个小组，虽然不是我理想中最好的，但却是最团结的一组。虽然中途发生了一些令人遗憾的事情，但我觉得这次的工程让我收获不少。好长又好短的22天。长，因为我们在这漫漫22天中完成了许多许多，了解与领悟了很多很多，学到了好多好多。短，因为22天在一年365天里，微不足道，这短暂让人能喘息时间，不仅没让我充电，反而消耗了我大量的功力。哈哈。短，也因为我还没完全认识这一群PA X的好朋友们。真希望我们能有更多时间再一起来相聚。
现在，我的人生又要重新出发了，这次是一条漫长又艰辛的旅途。在这条新的路上，我将遇上许许多多莘莘学子，我将在无意或有意中影响他们。我只能带着一个目标继续前进：让他们知道活着的意义，及做人的道理。
好了，不要再说这么沉闷的东西了。其实在这次的旅途中，我发现我是个容易对人有好感的人。简单来说，我喜欢上了一个女孩。有人问：“你不觉得博客很假吗？因为你不会在网上说出你真正的感受。但我觉得这是因人而异的。起码我会尝试写出我的想法， 因为我觉得这是一个很好收藏回忆的管道。在若干年后，当你再读到自己的回忆时，也会会心一笑。
在去年十二月的旅程中，我觉得我好像喜欢上了这个女生，但这份感觉很奇怪。后来，我才知道原来我只是想要尝试培养出一种“喜欢”的感觉，因为我觉得这位女生很不错，是值得交往的对象。在这22 天中，在与许多人分享了他们的恋爱史时，我不得不同意这一点，感情是很难培养出来的，一定要有一样东西牵引着两人，或是让两个人在一起时觉得很舒服。
正当我在尝试找寻一样让彼此都能更舒服的默契时，我竟然在另一个女生的身上找到了这份默契。她让我觉得交谈中很舒服，又很想让人去呵护。只可惜她已经有了男朋友，而且这可能是一厢情愿，但我很珍惜这难得的心动。说真的，已经有很久没有这种感觉了。哈哈，没关系，我只希望她能得到真正的幸福和快乐。这才是最重要的。有一位朋友告诉我：好的东西是值得等待的。此时的我，只能再期待下一次的心动了。哈哈。今天，我发现有很多人在MSN 上写了这样的一句话：Yesterday is History, Today is a Mystery, and Tomorrow is a Gift, that is why it is called the Present. 我想了很久，好像在哪儿见过，因为今天我不止一次在网上看到了这句话。好吧，让我们努力迎接明天将到来的礼物吧！
好了，这篇花了一天来写。哈哈。
现在，我的人生又要重新出发了，这次是一条漫长又艰辛的旅途。在这条新的路上，我将遇上许许多多莘莘学子，我将在无意或有意中影响他们。我只能带着一个目标继续前进：让他们知道活着的意义，及做人的道理。
好了，不要再说这么沉闷的东西了。其实在这次的旅途中，我发现我是个容易对人有好感的人。简单来说，我喜欢上了一个女孩。有人问：“你不觉得博客很假吗？因为你不会在网上说出你真正的感受。但我觉得这是因人而异的。起码我会尝试写出我的想法， 因为我觉得这是一个很好收藏回忆的管道。在若干年后，当你再读到自己的回忆时，也会会心一笑。
在去年十二月的旅程中，我觉得我好像喜欢上了这个女生，但这份感觉很奇怪。后来，我才知道原来我只是想要尝试培养出一种“喜欢”的感觉，因为我觉得这位女生很不错，是值得交往的对象。在这22 天中，在与许多人分享了他们的恋爱史时，我不得不同意这一点，感情是很难培养出来的，一定要有一样东西牵引着两人，或是让两个人在一起时觉得很舒服。
正当我在尝试找寻一样让彼此都能更舒服的默契时，我竟然在另一个女生的身上找到了这份默契。她让我觉得交谈中很舒服，又很想让人去呵护。只可惜她已经有了男朋友，而且这可能是一厢情愿，但我很珍惜这难得的心动。说真的，已经有很久没有这种感觉了。哈哈，没关系，我只希望她能得到真正的幸福和快乐。这才是最重要的。有一位朋友告诉我：好的东西是值得等待的。此时的我，只能再期待下一次的心动了。哈哈。今天，我发现有很多人在MSN 上写了这样的一句话：Yesterday is History, Today is a Mystery, and Tomorrow is a Gift, that is why it is called the Present. 我想了很久，好像在哪儿见过，因为今天我不止一次在网上看到了这句话。好吧，让我们努力迎接明天将到来的礼物吧！
好了，这篇花了一天来写。哈哈。
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
At Changi Terminal 1 Gate C19
Here I am, going to leave Singapore soon, to embark on a learning journey of 22 days. In these 22 days, I may become darker, I may slim down, I may be sick, but nonetheless, I look forward to this trip. And well, I look forward to the visit to Ang Kor Wat again tomorrow morning. Of course, one more thing that I am anticipating, Champions League Finals, tomorrow, Man Utd Vs Chelsea.. haha.. How to watch leh? Well, I will find a way out.. So, half an hour more to boarding the plane, and here I am, feeling bored and using the free Internet..
I have looked through the blogs again, and am glad that some of my students actually mentioned me in their blogs, all missing me of course.. hahaha.. Well, same sentiments here.. Looking forward to teaching in the new term liao.. Remember to watch the " Hua Wen Zhi Duo Xing", 8 pm on every monday. I think it is a great way to improve your chinese. Sorry ar, this computer here cannot type chinese. Okie.. Nothing much to write.. and a big challenge awaiting for me ahead.. To lead 28 angels on a mission.. Hope they do learn something..I will try my best to blog whenever I can, I have brought my laptop along too, and there is this one single place that has wireless access in Cambodia, called "Blue Pumpkin".. I will take some time to type out my blog, if I have the chance..
Hail Man Utd.. Winners tomorrow night! Till 22 days later..
I have looked through the blogs again, and am glad that some of my students actually mentioned me in their blogs, all missing me of course.. hahaha.. Well, same sentiments here.. Looking forward to teaching in the new term liao.. Remember to watch the " Hua Wen Zhi Duo Xing", 8 pm on every monday. I think it is a great way to improve your chinese. Sorry ar, this computer here cannot type chinese. Okie.. Nothing much to write.. and a big challenge awaiting for me ahead.. To lead 28 angels on a mission.. Hope they do learn something..I will try my best to blog whenever I can, I have brought my laptop along too, and there is this one single place that has wireless access in Cambodia, called "Blue Pumpkin".. I will take some time to type out my blog, if I have the chance..
Hail Man Utd.. Winners tomorrow night! Till 22 days later..
Monday, May 19, 2008
The different faces of life (人生中不同的脸孔）
很多人说我如果不笑，我的样子看起来会很凶。可能是我的皮肤黑吧，每次会被当成脸黑黑。可能这是一件好事，也有可能，这是件坏事。为什么我这么说呢？今天，我除了要分享我的脸上的表情代表着什么意思外，还希望能谈一谈我的一些看法。
有时候，当我不笑的时候，其实我感到很累，很疲倦，尤其是这上半年， 我笑与不笑的时候差不多都各一半。我是个很喜欢笑的人，也很喜欢带给我周围的人欢笑。但遗憾的是，我的家里常常都是吵闹多过笑声。所以每次我和朋友在外面时，都尽量保持愉快的心情。这上半年，由于受到学校教学的压力，以及两个海外义工工程的进行与后续工作，让我筋疲力尽，想笑也笑不出来。
我不笑，除了疲倦外，其实有时是在想事情。当我在思考时，是我最认真的时刻，所以经常会看到我不说话，然后也不笑。可能就是因为我平时笑太多，给人一种吊儿郎当的感觉，因此，当我不笑的时候，就会被当成是“脸臭臭”、“发脾气”。你或许还没察觉，我其实不喜欢发脾气，也不喜欢生气的感觉，因为生气很累。当我生气时，我会让你知道你把我惹火了，而那是每个人最不想看到的脸。
因此，如果我凶，那是因为我有必要对你凶，而不是因为我生气了。例如：当我发现班上有人说话时，我必须凶，学生才不会吵闹；或者当在学生警察中，为了维持纪律，绝对有必要对学生凶，才能让他们知道什么时候应该遵守纪律；又或者当我是领导时，为了维持队中的合作精神，我得拿出领队的威严来达到目的。但，如果你是一个正常人的话，你不会喜欢人们对你凶，或对你呼来唤去，或骂你。这也是我常被人误会的地方。或许可能是我认为别人误会我，但事实上，这与人的本性有关。
我非常讨厌我的父亲经常无缘无故就对我怒吼，尤其当我没有犯错时，因此我时时警惕自己，除非有必要，不然我不会对任何人这么做。其实，这些日子以来，尤其是上个星期所发生的一些事，让我深深明白了人性的一个弱点：人，不喜欢被其他人把他们当成小孩子般来使唤，或训话，因此他们常常怪罪于骂他们的人，从来不会反省自己是否有错。换句话说，现在的人们只会埋怨别人对自己怎么样的不好，却不换个角度想想他们是否真的有错，以致招徕他人的谩骂？他们也不会去设身处地想想为何人们要如此对待他们？我不否认有些人就喜欢针对人，又或者观点存有偏见，因此常喜欢骂人。总而言之，我觉得反省之心非常重要。
我的父亲是个脾气极度暴躁的人，因此我常被骂。这也导致我们父子俩的关系处于一种敬畏的阶段。但，我必须说一点：没有我的父亲的“骂”，就没有今天的我。我有很多缺点都是经过“骂”之后，才改正过来，但遗憾的是，他很少会去发掘我的优点。可能是我曾令他失望过。
在这次的四川大地震中，我看到了不少新的脸孔，一些人生中难得一见真诚的脸孔。我看到了人们在寻找孩子忧虑的脸孔；我看到了人们在面对亲人尸体时无可奈何，欲哭无泪的脸孔；我看到了更多人们抱着希望的脸孔，日以继夜地不断搜寻失踪者的下落；我也看到温家宝总理温和慈祥的脸孔安抚着沮丧的人民； 我更看到了为了保护学生而壮烈牺牲的老师僵硬的脸孔；我也看到了学生们感激老师的脸孔； 我看到了全世界不分国界、种族、语言的人民，慷慨解囊，伸出援手，为灾区人民默默祈祷，盼望有更多生还者，那种恳切的脸孔。
在这次缅甸的热带风暴中，我看到了政府对人民不屑的脸孔；我看到了全世界人们想要帮助，但却无可奈何的脸孔； 我看到了缅甸人民在被自己政府残酷的遗弃后，自动自发地从全国各地到灾区去出一份绵力，向自己的同袍伸出援手，那种互助互爱的脸孔；我更看到了救难人员，及联合国因为缅甸政府不肯配合而生气的面孔。
以上种种的面孔，不管是善良或丑陋，都在这两个大灾难中显现出来。我从这些人生中不同的脸孔中学到了四个字、一个道理：人性本善。善良是人们天生的本性，尽管缅甸的政府从表面上看来对外来的援助很不友善，但那时因为权力的斗争腐化了他们善良的本性。在这里，我希望我的学生及到我的博客阅读的朋友，都能保持自己善良的心，并要懂得从经验中虚心学习，不要一直埋怨他人对自己开骂，要换个方式去反省为何人们会这样对你。可能你会发现这个人其实教会你更多的人生道理，毕竟我是这么过来的，你呢？
English translation of the above text:
Many people say that if I do not smile, I actually look very fierce. I look into the mirror and thought: Maybe I am too dark，so i get mistaken as being angry. Maybe it is a good thing, but maybe it is not that great after all. Why do I say so? Today, I am going to share what the expressions on my face mean, and what they actually represent of me, and I also hope to share some of my views about the different faces of life.
Sometime, when I do not smile, it is actually because I feel tired, really tired. Especially for the last half of 2008, the times where I smiled/ laughed, and the times where I do not smile at all, I think they are quite equal. I am someone who likes to laugh or rather, I like to bring laughter to the people around me. But regretfully, I have not been able to fulfil this wish at home, as scoldings exceed the amount of laughter being heard. Hence everytime when I go out with my friends, I do my best to maintain fun and laughter. For the last half of the year, due to pressure from teaching in school, and my 2 overseas community projects, its preparation for one and its closing for the other, it has drained me totally of my energy, so as much as I want to laugh, but I do not have excess energy to do it.
When I do not laugh, besides being tired, actually I am thinking about some matters. When I am really in deep thought, that is when I am serious about some important matters, hence you will see me being very quiet, and not smiling at all. Maybe I usually give others an impression whereby I laugh and joke a lot, giving people an impression that I am not serious about things, hence when I don't laugh, people will think that I am angry, or feeling unhappy. They will not think that I am tired. Maybe you have not realised one thing about me, that is, I so not like to be angry, as I hate the feeling of being angry, because it tires me further to be angry at someone. So when I am really angry at you, I will let you know about it, and that will really be the face which you will really hate to see.
When I am fierce to you, that is because I feel that there is a need to be fierce, and not because I am angry. For example, when I find someone talking in class, I have to be fierce, so that the students will not be noisy and thus affect the learning of other students; Or when in NPCC, in order to maintain discipline, I have to be fierce to the students so that they will know when is the time that they have to obey orders and not to fool around; Or when I am in the position of a leader, in order to maintain the team's discipline in doing things, I have to exert my authority on you to achieve the aim. However, having said so, if you are a normal being, you will not like people to be fierce to you, nor will you want people to boss you around to do things, or scold you. No one likes that， and that is why I am always being mistaken by others. Or maybe it could be that I have mistaken how others think of me. Nevertheless, I have come to realize one thing, in reality, this has got to do with the nature of human being.
I really hate my dad at times, when he rants at me for no particular reason, especially when I am not wrong..Hence I keep reminding myself, unless there is a need, if not, I will not scold people for no particular reasons. Actually, through these days, especially after what happened last week, I realized that human have a weakness, and that is: Man, as much as they do not like to be treated as kids, being commanded at or scolded, they turn to vent their frustrations on the people who scolds or reprimands them. Man seldom does reflect on his own mistakes. In another words, people nowadays only know how to complain about how others are treating them badly, but they do not change their perspective to wonder if they really did something wrong, that deserved a scolding from others? They do not put themselves in others shoes, and think of why people have to treat them in this lousy manner? I do not deny that there are cases where people just like to find fault in others, or some whose viewpoints are biased and flawed, such that they just like to scold others unnecessary. All in all, I feel that self reflection is very important.
My dad is someone who has a very bad temper, hence me being scolded that much. This has also caused our relationship of me to always be in a position more of respect rather than us trying to understand each other better. But, I have to say this, without the relentless scolding from my dad, there will not be the Ivan Lee today. I learn through the many mistakes through his scoldings, but the one thing that I find regretful is that, he seldom explore my strengths. Maybe because I have hurt him badly before.
In the aftermath of the Si Chuan Earthquake, I see a lot of refreshing faces, some which can only be seen in a lifetime. I saw the faces of people frantically looking for their children in the rubbles; I saw the helpless, sad faces of those who have lost their closest kins and friends; I saw more hopeful faces working hard day and night trying their very best to look for the traces of their loved ones, or of stangers that they do not even know; I saw the kind face of Premier Wen Jia bao providing mental support and calmness to the helpless victims of the earthquake; I even saw the hardened, expressionless faces of the teachers who have sacrificed themselves in the event of protecting their students from the quake; I also saw the faces of gratitude of the students who were saved from the rubbles; and of course, I saw the earnest faces of kind people from all over the world, regardless of country, race and language, doing their best to raise funds, and pray for the well being of the victims, hoping that there can be more survivors as time ticked past.
In Myanmar's Cyclone Nargis, I saw the uncaring face of the government of Myanmar; I also saw the helpless faces of those who have kind intentions to help, yet unable to do anything due to the government's restrictions; I saw the helpful, kind and loving faces of burmese coming from all over the country to lend a helping hand to their own people; and I also saw the angry faces of the rescuers from all over the world as well as the frustrated faces of the UN counterparts who wanted to help.
以上种种的面孔，不管是善良或丑陋，都在这两个大灾难中显现出来。我从这些人生中不同的脸孔中学到了四个字、一个道理：人性本善。善良是人们天生的本性， 尽管缅甸的政府从表面上看来对外来的援助很不友善，但那时因为权力的斗争腐化了他们善良的本性。在这里，我希望我的学生及到我的博客阅读的朋友，都能保持 自己善良的心，并要懂得从经验中虚心学习，不要一直埋怨他人对自己的不好，要换个方式去反省为何人们会这样对你。可能你会发现这个人其实教会你更多的人生道 理，毕竟我是这么过来的，你呢？
From all the different faces from all walks of life, no matter whether they are kind or ugly faces, it has surfaced from the 2 natural disasters and tragedies. I have learnt an applicable phrase from the above, and that is: Human is kind by nature. Being kind is an inborn nature of human beings. Even when we see the Myanmar government unwelcoming outside aid, we have to realise that it is because of the struggle for power that has made the junta defect from their original kind nature. Hence finally, I hope that my students and other visitors of this blog, can maintain a kind heart, and learn humbly from your experiences and failures, and do not keep blaming others for being harsh on you. Try to think from another positive perspective on why people are treating you in this manner. Maybe you will find that this person whom actually scolds you have actually taught you much more than you have ever learnt. Well, at least that was how I lived by, what about you?
( wah, I actually spent 3 hours on this.. 2.45 am le.. Time to sleep.. Going Cambodia tomorrow le.. Last night on my precious bed..)
有时候，当我不笑的时候，其实我感到很累，很疲倦，尤其是这上半年， 我笑与不笑的时候差不多都各一半。我是个很喜欢笑的人，也很喜欢带给我周围的人欢笑。但遗憾的是，我的家里常常都是吵闹多过笑声。所以每次我和朋友在外面时，都尽量保持愉快的心情。这上半年，由于受到学校教学的压力，以及两个海外义工工程的进行与后续工作，让我筋疲力尽，想笑也笑不出来。
我不笑，除了疲倦外，其实有时是在想事情。当我在思考时，是我最认真的时刻，所以经常会看到我不说话，然后也不笑。可能就是因为我平时笑太多，给人一种吊儿郎当的感觉，因此，当我不笑的时候，就会被当成是“脸臭臭”、“发脾气”。你或许还没察觉，我其实不喜欢发脾气，也不喜欢生气的感觉，因为生气很累。当我生气时，我会让你知道你把我惹火了，而那是每个人最不想看到的脸。
因此，如果我凶，那是因为我有必要对你凶，而不是因为我生气了。例如：当我发现班上有人说话时，我必须凶，学生才不会吵闹；或者当在学生警察中，为了维持纪律，绝对有必要对学生凶，才能让他们知道什么时候应该遵守纪律；又或者当我是领导时，为了维持队中的合作精神，我得拿出领队的威严来达到目的。但，如果你是一个正常人的话，你不会喜欢人们对你凶，或对你呼来唤去，或骂你。这也是我常被人误会的地方。或许可能是我认为别人误会我，但事实上，这与人的本性有关。
我非常讨厌我的父亲经常无缘无故就对我怒吼，尤其当我没有犯错时，因此我时时警惕自己，除非有必要，不然我不会对任何人这么做。其实，这些日子以来，尤其是上个星期所发生的一些事，让我深深明白了人性的一个弱点：人，不喜欢被其他人把他们当成小孩子般来使唤，或训话，因此他们常常怪罪于骂他们的人，从来不会反省自己是否有错。换句话说，现在的人们只会埋怨别人对自己怎么样的不好，却不换个角度想想他们是否真的有错，以致招徕他人的谩骂？他们也不会去设身处地想想为何人们要如此对待他们？我不否认有些人就喜欢针对人，又或者观点存有偏见，因此常喜欢骂人。总而言之，我觉得反省之心非常重要。
我的父亲是个脾气极度暴躁的人，因此我常被骂。这也导致我们父子俩的关系处于一种敬畏的阶段。但，我必须说一点：没有我的父亲的“骂”，就没有今天的我。我有很多缺点都是经过“骂”之后，才改正过来，但遗憾的是，他很少会去发掘我的优点。可能是我曾令他失望过。
在这次的四川大地震中，我看到了不少新的脸孔，一些人生中难得一见真诚的脸孔。我看到了人们在寻找孩子忧虑的脸孔；我看到了人们在面对亲人尸体时无可奈何，欲哭无泪的脸孔；我看到了更多人们抱着希望的脸孔，日以继夜地不断搜寻失踪者的下落；我也看到温家宝总理温和慈祥的脸孔安抚着沮丧的人民； 我更看到了为了保护学生而壮烈牺牲的老师僵硬的脸孔；我也看到了学生们感激老师的脸孔； 我看到了全世界不分国界、种族、语言的人民，慷慨解囊，伸出援手，为灾区人民默默祈祷，盼望有更多生还者，那种恳切的脸孔。
在这次缅甸的热带风暴中，我看到了政府对人民不屑的脸孔；我看到了全世界人们想要帮助，但却无可奈何的脸孔； 我看到了缅甸人民在被自己政府残酷的遗弃后，自动自发地从全国各地到灾区去出一份绵力，向自己的同袍伸出援手，那种互助互爱的脸孔；我更看到了救难人员，及联合国因为缅甸政府不肯配合而生气的面孔。
以上种种的面孔，不管是善良或丑陋，都在这两个大灾难中显现出来。我从这些人生中不同的脸孔中学到了四个字、一个道理：人性本善。善良是人们天生的本性，尽管缅甸的政府从表面上看来对外来的援助很不友善，但那时因为权力的斗争腐化了他们善良的本性。在这里，我希望我的学生及到我的博客阅读的朋友，都能保持自己善良的心，并要懂得从经验中虚心学习，不要一直埋怨他人对自己开骂，要换个方式去反省为何人们会这样对你。可能你会发现这个人其实教会你更多的人生道理，毕竟我是这么过来的，你呢？
English translation of the above text:
Many people say that if I do not smile, I actually look very fierce. I look into the mirror and thought: Maybe I am too dark，so i get mistaken as being angry. Maybe it is a good thing, but maybe it is not that great after all. Why do I say so? Today, I am going to share what the expressions on my face mean, and what they actually represent of me, and I also hope to share some of my views about the different faces of life.
Sometime, when I do not smile, it is actually because I feel tired, really tired. Especially for the last half of 2008, the times where I smiled/ laughed, and the times where I do not smile at all, I think they are quite equal. I am someone who likes to laugh or rather, I like to bring laughter to the people around me. But regretfully, I have not been able to fulfil this wish at home, as scoldings exceed the amount of laughter being heard. Hence everytime when I go out with my friends, I do my best to maintain fun and laughter. For the last half of the year, due to pressure from teaching in school, and my 2 overseas community projects, its preparation for one and its closing for the other, it has drained me totally of my energy, so as much as I want to laugh, but I do not have excess energy to do it.
When I do not laugh, besides being tired, actually I am thinking about some matters. When I am really in deep thought, that is when I am serious about some important matters, hence you will see me being very quiet, and not smiling at all. Maybe I usually give others an impression whereby I laugh and joke a lot, giving people an impression that I am not serious about things, hence when I don't laugh, people will think that I am angry, or feeling unhappy. They will not think that I am tired. Maybe you have not realised one thing about me, that is, I so not like to be angry, as I hate the feeling of being angry, because it tires me further to be angry at someone. So when I am really angry at you, I will let you know about it, and that will really be the face which you will really hate to see.
When I am fierce to you, that is because I feel that there is a need to be fierce, and not because I am angry. For example, when I find someone talking in class, I have to be fierce, so that the students will not be noisy and thus affect the learning of other students; Or when in NPCC, in order to maintain discipline, I have to be fierce to the students so that they will know when is the time that they have to obey orders and not to fool around; Or when I am in the position of a leader, in order to maintain the team's discipline in doing things, I have to exert my authority on you to achieve the aim. However, having said so, if you are a normal being, you will not like people to be fierce to you, nor will you want people to boss you around to do things, or scold you. No one likes that， and that is why I am always being mistaken by others. Or maybe it could be that I have mistaken how others think of me. Nevertheless, I have come to realize one thing, in reality, this has got to do with the nature of human being.
I really hate my dad at times, when he rants at me for no particular reason, especially when I am not wrong..Hence I keep reminding myself, unless there is a need, if not, I will not scold people for no particular reasons. Actually, through these days, especially after what happened last week, I realized that human have a weakness, and that is: Man, as much as they do not like to be treated as kids, being commanded at or scolded, they turn to vent their frustrations on the people who scolds or reprimands them. Man seldom does reflect on his own mistakes. In another words, people nowadays only know how to complain about how others are treating them badly, but they do not change their perspective to wonder if they really did something wrong, that deserved a scolding from others? They do not put themselves in others shoes, and think of why people have to treat them in this lousy manner? I do not deny that there are cases where people just like to find fault in others, or some whose viewpoints are biased and flawed, such that they just like to scold others unnecessary. All in all, I feel that self reflection is very important.
My dad is someone who has a very bad temper, hence me being scolded that much. This has also caused our relationship of me to always be in a position more of respect rather than us trying to understand each other better. But, I have to say this, without the relentless scolding from my dad, there will not be the Ivan Lee today. I learn through the many mistakes through his scoldings, but the one thing that I find regretful is that, he seldom explore my strengths. Maybe because I have hurt him badly before.
In the aftermath of the Si Chuan Earthquake, I see a lot of refreshing faces, some which can only be seen in a lifetime. I saw the faces of people frantically looking for their children in the rubbles; I saw the helpless, sad faces of those who have lost their closest kins and friends; I saw more hopeful faces working hard day and night trying their very best to look for the traces of their loved ones, or of stangers that they do not even know; I saw the kind face of Premier Wen Jia bao providing mental support and calmness to the helpless victims of the earthquake; I even saw the hardened, expressionless faces of the teachers who have sacrificed themselves in the event of protecting their students from the quake; I also saw the faces of gratitude of the students who were saved from the rubbles; and of course, I saw the earnest faces of kind people from all over the world, regardless of country, race and language, doing their best to raise funds, and pray for the well being of the victims, hoping that there can be more survivors as time ticked past.
In Myanmar's Cyclone Nargis, I saw the uncaring face of the government of Myanmar; I also saw the helpless faces of those who have kind intentions to help, yet unable to do anything due to the government's restrictions; I saw the helpful, kind and loving faces of burmese coming from all over the country to lend a helping hand to their own people; and I also saw the angry faces of the rescuers from all over the world as well as the frustrated faces of the UN counterparts who wanted to help.
以上种种的面孔，不管是善良或丑陋，都在这两个大灾难中显现出来。我从这些人生中不同的脸孔中学到了四个字、一个道理：人性本善。善良是人们天生的本性， 尽管缅甸的政府从表面上看来对外来的援助很不友善，但那时因为权力的斗争腐化了他们善良的本性。在这里，我希望我的学生及到我的博客阅读的朋友，都能保持 自己善良的心，并要懂得从经验中虚心学习，不要一直埋怨他人对自己的不好，要换个方式去反省为何人们会这样对你。可能你会发现这个人其实教会你更多的人生道 理，毕竟我是这么过来的，你呢？
From all the different faces from all walks of life, no matter whether they are kind or ugly faces, it has surfaced from the 2 natural disasters and tragedies. I have learnt an applicable phrase from the above, and that is: Human is kind by nature. Being kind is an inborn nature of human beings. Even when we see the Myanmar government unwelcoming outside aid, we have to realise that it is because of the struggle for power that has made the junta defect from their original kind nature. Hence finally, I hope that my students and other visitors of this blog, can maintain a kind heart, and learn humbly from your experiences and failures, and do not keep blaming others for being harsh on you. Try to think from another positive perspective on why people are treating you in this manner. Maybe you will find that this person whom actually scolds you have actually taught you much more than you have ever learnt. Well, at least that was how I lived by, what about you?
( wah, I actually spent 3 hours on this.. 2.45 am le.. Time to sleep.. Going Cambodia tomorrow le.. Last night on my precious bed..)
Thursday, May 15, 2008
心痛! 中国人不会那么容易倒下。。
I am feeling very heavy now, not physically, but deep down in my heart. My last post was dated 11 may 08, now on this day 15th May 08, as I regained consciousness of what is happening around me, I realized that I am a lucky man. After the Pulau Ubin camp with my Project Angel X members, I revolved around feeling tired and burdened by personal unhappiness, with the news of the China earthquake ringing around my ears, cos my dad was watching the Chinese news yesterday.
On 12th of May，I was still at the chalet in Aloha Changi.. Yet there, 5 hours flight away from me, people are dying, people are howling in pain, people are...... using their bodies to save each other. Yes, these are the noble people. I just read in the papers today about 2 parents cowering over their child to protect her from the falling wall. The parents were dead in the rubble, though the child was rescued.
A teacher blocked his students from a falling ceiling, and his head was crushed in, but his 4 students survived. A 65 year old man, used all his strength to carry his disabled wife from 3rd level, to 7th level. Thousands of students died in the secondary schools, and primary schools in Si Chuan, and people lose their families and friends.
Tears welled up my eyes when I read these news, and I really felt that I could do nothing when I see and read these news. My heart ached and it will continue tonight only until I fall asleep. I am glad that I am staying in this small yet safe country. I am glad that my students are still safe in their homes, enjoying TV and playing computers. I am glad that I do not have to go through the ordeal of separation from my parents. I am a free thinker, so I thank whoever brought me where I am.
Yet, I feel sad when I see people not learning to appreciate what is around them, I feel sad when people quarrel over small things and abandon their loved ones. I feel sad when I am able-bodied yet I cannot stretch out my hands to save a life. Here, I can only thank the Chinese government for being able to save as many lives as they could, thank Premier (Prime Minister) Wen Jia Bao, who stepped out just 90 minutes after the quake, and went straight into the rubble to calm everyone down, and direct the whole rescue operation. Yes, China is filled with love, let us all pray for the 2 countries.
In the month of may, more than 200,000 innocent lives have perished under the hands of natural disaster. Who do we blame? The incumbent government of Myanmar or the cruelty of the natural disasters? Why do people perish like this in Myanmar? Because they are still living in poverty and do not have the power to save themselves. They do not have the power to stay in better houses, do not have the ability to feed themselves, and do not have the power to overthrow their corrupted government. Can you imagine now, what might happen if those in power chose to ignore the life and death of its people?
In China, it was a totally different scenario. Thousands of people rushed over with aid from over the world, and China welcomed them with warmth. The Chinese work day and night to save their people from the rubble, and of course, the most touching scenes would be people sacrificing themselves to save others. Other than wishing them good luck, I do not think I can contribute much other than some money. Below is a link that lets you donate to redcross, who will bring over our donated amounts over to both people of China and Myanmar. Maybe we could do something.. maybe..
Students, do get your parents to make a gift in this difficult time..And lastly, appreciate all your loved ones, and learn to love yourself too.. I will be away in Cambodia from Tuesday 20th May to 10th June. I will try to keep a diary if I can manage, and will post if I have time. Meanwhile, I hope all of you (1F, 1D, 2B）, pls continue writing and updating your blogs, and when I say I miss you guys, I mean it.. See you all in a month time.
http://www.redcross.org.sg/chinaearthquake_src_donate.htm
Ivan
On 12th of May，I was still at the chalet in Aloha Changi.. Yet there, 5 hours flight away from me, people are dying, people are howling in pain, people are...... using their bodies to save each other. Yes, these are the noble people. I just read in the papers today about 2 parents cowering over their child to protect her from the falling wall. The parents were dead in the rubble, though the child was rescued.
A teacher blocked his students from a falling ceiling, and his head was crushed in, but his 4 students survived. A 65 year old man, used all his strength to carry his disabled wife from 3rd level, to 7th level. Thousands of students died in the secondary schools, and primary schools in Si Chuan, and people lose their families and friends.
Tears welled up my eyes when I read these news, and I really felt that I could do nothing when I see and read these news. My heart ached and it will continue tonight only until I fall asleep. I am glad that I am staying in this small yet safe country. I am glad that my students are still safe in their homes, enjoying TV and playing computers. I am glad that I do not have to go through the ordeal of separation from my parents. I am a free thinker, so I thank whoever brought me where I am.
Yet, I feel sad when I see people not learning to appreciate what is around them, I feel sad when people quarrel over small things and abandon their loved ones. I feel sad when I am able-bodied yet I cannot stretch out my hands to save a life. Here, I can only thank the Chinese government for being able to save as many lives as they could, thank Premier (Prime Minister) Wen Jia Bao, who stepped out just 90 minutes after the quake, and went straight into the rubble to calm everyone down, and direct the whole rescue operation. Yes, China is filled with love, let us all pray for the 2 countries.
In the month of may, more than 200,000 innocent lives have perished under the hands of natural disaster. Who do we blame? The incumbent government of Myanmar or the cruelty of the natural disasters? Why do people perish like this in Myanmar? Because they are still living in poverty and do not have the power to save themselves. They do not have the power to stay in better houses, do not have the ability to feed themselves, and do not have the power to overthrow their corrupted government. Can you imagine now, what might happen if those in power chose to ignore the life and death of its people?
In China, it was a totally different scenario. Thousands of people rushed over with aid from over the world, and China welcomed them with warmth. The Chinese work day and night to save their people from the rubble, and of course, the most touching scenes would be people sacrificing themselves to save others. Other than wishing them good luck, I do not think I can contribute much other than some money. Below is a link that lets you donate to redcross, who will bring over our donated amounts over to both people of China and Myanmar. Maybe we could do something.. maybe..
Students, do get your parents to make a gift in this difficult time..And lastly, appreciate all your loved ones, and learn to love yourself too.. I will be away in Cambodia from Tuesday 20th May to 10th June. I will try to keep a diary if I can manage, and will post if I have time. Meanwhile, I hope all of you (1F, 1D, 2B）, pls continue writing and updating your blogs, and when I say I miss you guys, I mean it.. See you all in a month time.
http://www.redcross.org.sg/chinaearthquake_src_donate.htm
Ivan
Sunday, May 11, 2008
缅甸风灾
前几天，缅甸发生了一场惨不忍睹的人间悲剧。以下是风暴袭击缅甸点滴：
根据其他媒体、新闻报道，死亡人数介于20，000（中国新闻） 至100，000不等（海峡时报，Straits Times）。其实，根本不会有这么多的伤亡人数，但就是因为长期压制人民的缅甸军政府（Military Junta/government), 缅甸局势才会一发不可收拾。
以下是我看到的一些新闻、事件和所知道的事实，我将翻译成英语。
Below are some news, events and truths that I have heard and seen with my own eyes, and I would like to share with all of you, hence I did a translation to English.
你们知道吗？Do you know that:
1。在灾难发生初期，缅甸政府不让外国援助、医疗机构进入，以致更多的人死于饥饿、缺乏食水、缺乏栖身之所、寒冷的天气。
1. During the start of the disaster, just after the cyclone hit Burma, the military Junta/Government refused entry to international aid, especially food and medical aid, because they were afraid that they would bring harm to the military reign. Hence, at the expense of the lives of the burmese, the number of deaths tolled from a mere 10,000 to nearly 100,000, due to starvation, lack of drinking water, lack of accomodation and of course, lack of protection from the cold and attack from the winds.
2。有一个怀了孕的母亲，爬上了树去逃过被水冲走的厄运，最后诞下了一个宝宝。但她的七名子女却在风灾中无一幸免。
2. A pregnant lady climbed up a tree to prevent herself from being flushed away by the floods caused by the cyclone. Finally, she was saved, and she gave birth to a healthy baby. It brought joy to the sad news that a new life was born. But her 7 children all perished in the cyclone. I will always remember this news.
3。新加坡有很多缅甸人，他们都是因为受不了受到缅甸军政府的欺压，得出外寻求生存。
3. There are many Burmese in Singapore. You would have noticed that if you visit City Hall during the weekends, near Peninsular Shopping Centre. These Burmese came over to Singapore, or to other countries, with the hope of escaping from the clutches and suppression from the Military government in Burma, and to seek a better life out there. Anywhere is better than Burma.
4。缅甸人民痛恨他们的政府，但由于一些国家的经济利益，使得国际社会不能对于其军政府加以制裁。
4. The Burmese hate their government, but for economic reasons, some of the bigger countries like China and India, have been providing support for Burma, such that the international community is unable to do anything to stop the dire state of Burma.
5。缅甸最有钱的人是政府中的将军，其他地方的百姓有很多每天都赚取不到1美元的薪水，可见他们是多么穷困。
5. The richest people in Burma, are the military generals, and if foreigners were to go, we need to pay double the price of what the locals pay. (Told by my burmese friend). There are many small villages, where the people do not earn more than 1 USD per day, so you can see the state that they are in.
6。由于缅甸政府长期残杀克伦族（Karen tribe）的族群（现在依然如此），从缅甸流亡到泰国的难民多达100，000人，而这个数目还在增加。泰国政府本来想将他们遣返回国，但由于这是条死路，所以继续给予帮助。
6. Due to the long term massacre of the tribal people in Burma, mainly the Karens, the number of refugees who have fled over across the border to Thailand, has increased to nearly 100, 0000 over the years, and this number is still increasing. The thailand government wanted to expedite them back to Burma, but on knowing that this is dead road, they continue to provide help and shelter to these refugees. (The military government wanted to kill the Karens, mainly because of religion differences, since 80% of Burmese are Buddhists, and Karens are the minorities, the christians. )
7。我在去年5月时，去了泰缅边界的难民营去，看到了那里友善的克伦族人民。他们对于教育十分注重，而且也非常努力为自己的将来奋斗，因为只要他们学好英语，学业有不错，一年中，会有几户家庭有机会到美国、英国、澳洲等地，去开始新的生活。
7. I went to Mae Ra Camp， a refugee camp in Northeastern Thailand, near the borders of Thailand and Burma, and saw the kind hearted Karens. I found that they are not only friendly, but they give their guests the best thing. Because we went in groups, my other group of friends had "VIP" 5 star treatment from the Karens. They used fans to fan away the houseflies, and to keep my friends cool while enjoying their meals, and they kept refilling the food, as if we are really there for a buffet. But from these small actions, you can see no reasons why the government can be so brutal to kill their people. The Karens strive hard in their education, giving their children the best, to learn English, so that they would stand a chance for an interview to be given a chance to go overseas, to US, UK, Australia, to start a new life.
8。或许你不知道难民营是不容许难民外出的，因此他们如果没有钱贿赂官员让他们到泰国找寻工作，或到美国过新的生活，那么，他们就会像坐牢一样，一辈子都困在这个地方。但是，我看到的却是非常知足的克伦族人民。他们满足于现状，还有的告诉我，只要没有战火，这样的生活，有得吃、穿，已经很好了。
8. Maybe you do not know that a refugee camp does not allow refugees to go out of the camp. They need special permits to go out for interviews, or sometimes to buy new goods in. If they really want to leave, they have to give 10,000 Thai baht to the camp officers to bribe their way out of the camp, and start a new life in Thailand. Either that, or after they pass the interviews and tests, then they can be released to a new country of their choice, with their families. Hence staying in the refugee camp is like staying in prison, and if they do not get to leave, they will stay here forever. However so, I only see satisfied faces of the Karens, living happily without much complaints. The reason why they are contented is because they do not need to face a life full of fear and warfare. To them, as long as they have a place to stay, food to eat, and clothes to wear, they are happy enough.
9。由于缅甸与泰国只隔着一条大河，因此他们不时还会听到不远处传来的枪声。现在缅甸面临这场灾难，真不知缅甸人还要熬到多久，才可以得到真正的自由？
9. As Burma and Thailand is only a river apart, hence they can still hear gunshots from not far away at times. They can only pray for their counterparts' safety in Burma. Now that Burma faces the new series of disaster, I do not know how long they would need to suffer before being able to release themselves from the clutches of their government, and gain the true happiness...
10。加油吧，缅甸！Strive on, Burma.
谢谢。有空，请留言。
5月1日早晨，热带风暴“纳尔吉斯”在伊洛瓦底省的海基岛附近登陆，接着横扫缅甸三角洲地区。
5月3日，缅甸5个省邦遭遇气旋风暴 凌晨袭击仰光
5月3日，仰光市遭遇特强热带风暴袭击 至少4人死亡
5月3日，缅甸政府宣布仰光省、伊洛瓦底省、勃固省、孟邦和克伦邦为灾区。
5月4日，风暴造成351人死亡。大部分电力电信服务中断。
5月5日，强热带风暴袭击已造成缅甸3969人死亡，至少2879人失踪]
5月5日，强风暴致缅甸一城镇死亡近万人
5月5日，强风暴致缅甸数十万人无家可归
5月5日，风暴造成的死亡人数上升至1万5千人左右。
5月6日，数万人无家可归。风暴开始从缅甸转向泰国。
5月6日，缅甸前首都仰光受风暴袭击死亡10000人。
根据其他媒体、新闻报道，死亡人数介于20，000（中国新闻） 至100，000不等（海峡时报，Straits Times）。其实，根本不会有这么多的伤亡人数，但就是因为长期压制人民的缅甸军政府（Military Junta/government), 缅甸局势才会一发不可收拾。
以下是我看到的一些新闻、事件和所知道的事实，我将翻译成英语。
Below are some news, events and truths that I have heard and seen with my own eyes, and I would like to share with all of you, hence I did a translation to English.
你们知道吗？Do you know that:
1。在灾难发生初期，缅甸政府不让外国援助、医疗机构进入，以致更多的人死于饥饿、缺乏食水、缺乏栖身之所、寒冷的天气。
1. During the start of the disaster, just after the cyclone hit Burma, the military Junta/Government refused entry to international aid, especially food and medical aid, because they were afraid that they would bring harm to the military reign. Hence, at the expense of the lives of the burmese, the number of deaths tolled from a mere 10,000 to nearly 100,000, due to starvation, lack of drinking water, lack of accomodation and of course, lack of protection from the cold and attack from the winds.
2。有一个怀了孕的母亲，爬上了树去逃过被水冲走的厄运，最后诞下了一个宝宝。但她的七名子女却在风灾中无一幸免。
2. A pregnant lady climbed up a tree to prevent herself from being flushed away by the floods caused by the cyclone. Finally, she was saved, and she gave birth to a healthy baby. It brought joy to the sad news that a new life was born. But her 7 children all perished in the cyclone. I will always remember this news.
3。新加坡有很多缅甸人，他们都是因为受不了受到缅甸军政府的欺压，得出外寻求生存。
3. There are many Burmese in Singapore. You would have noticed that if you visit City Hall during the weekends, near Peninsular Shopping Centre. These Burmese came over to Singapore, or to other countries, with the hope of escaping from the clutches and suppression from the Military government in Burma, and to seek a better life out there. Anywhere is better than Burma.
4。缅甸人民痛恨他们的政府，但由于一些国家的经济利益，使得国际社会不能对于其军政府加以制裁。
4. The Burmese hate their government, but for economic reasons, some of the bigger countries like China and India, have been providing support for Burma, such that the international community is unable to do anything to stop the dire state of Burma.
5。缅甸最有钱的人是政府中的将军，其他地方的百姓有很多每天都赚取不到1美元的薪水，可见他们是多么穷困。
5. The richest people in Burma, are the military generals, and if foreigners were to go, we need to pay double the price of what the locals pay. (Told by my burmese friend). There are many small villages, where the people do not earn more than 1 USD per day, so you can see the state that they are in.
6。由于缅甸政府长期残杀克伦族（Karen tribe）的族群（现在依然如此），从缅甸流亡到泰国的难民多达100，000人，而这个数目还在增加。泰国政府本来想将他们遣返回国，但由于这是条死路，所以继续给予帮助。
6. Due to the long term massacre of the tribal people in Burma, mainly the Karens, the number of refugees who have fled over across the border to Thailand, has increased to nearly 100, 0000 over the years, and this number is still increasing. The thailand government wanted to expedite them back to Burma, but on knowing that this is dead road, they continue to provide help and shelter to these refugees. (The military government wanted to kill the Karens, mainly because of religion differences, since 80% of Burmese are Buddhists, and Karens are the minorities, the christians. )
7。我在去年5月时，去了泰缅边界的难民营去，看到了那里友善的克伦族人民。他们对于教育十分注重，而且也非常努力为自己的将来奋斗，因为只要他们学好英语，学业有不错，一年中，会有几户家庭有机会到美国、英国、澳洲等地，去开始新的生活。
7. I went to Mae Ra Camp， a refugee camp in Northeastern Thailand, near the borders of Thailand and Burma, and saw the kind hearted Karens. I found that they are not only friendly, but they give their guests the best thing. Because we went in groups, my other group of friends had "VIP" 5 star treatment from the Karens. They used fans to fan away the houseflies, and to keep my friends cool while enjoying their meals, and they kept refilling the food, as if we are really there for a buffet. But from these small actions, you can see no reasons why the government can be so brutal to kill their people. The Karens strive hard in their education, giving their children the best, to learn English, so that they would stand a chance for an interview to be given a chance to go overseas, to US, UK, Australia, to start a new life.
8。或许你不知道难民营是不容许难民外出的，因此他们如果没有钱贿赂官员让他们到泰国找寻工作，或到美国过新的生活，那么，他们就会像坐牢一样，一辈子都困在这个地方。但是，我看到的却是非常知足的克伦族人民。他们满足于现状，还有的告诉我，只要没有战火，这样的生活，有得吃、穿，已经很好了。
8. Maybe you do not know that a refugee camp does not allow refugees to go out of the camp. They need special permits to go out for interviews, or sometimes to buy new goods in. If they really want to leave, they have to give 10,000 Thai baht to the camp officers to bribe their way out of the camp, and start a new life in Thailand. Either that, or after they pass the interviews and tests, then they can be released to a new country of their choice, with their families. Hence staying in the refugee camp is like staying in prison, and if they do not get to leave, they will stay here forever. However so, I only see satisfied faces of the Karens, living happily without much complaints. The reason why they are contented is because they do not need to face a life full of fear and warfare. To them, as long as they have a place to stay, food to eat, and clothes to wear, they are happy enough.
9。由于缅甸与泰国只隔着一条大河，因此他们不时还会听到不远处传来的枪声。现在缅甸面临这场灾难，真不知缅甸人还要熬到多久，才可以得到真正的自由？
9. As Burma and Thailand is only a river apart, hence they can still hear gunshots from not far away at times. They can only pray for their counterparts' safety in Burma. Now that Burma faces the new series of disaster, I do not know how long they would need to suffer before being able to release themselves from the clutches of their government, and gain the true happiness...
10。加油吧，缅甸！Strive on, Burma.
谢谢。有空，请留言。
问世间情为何物？
我读到了一位学生的博客，才发现我的一位同事最近失恋。可能我太忙了，没有察觉到。
但古人有一句常被引用的话，问世间情为何物，直叫人生死相许。。应该是看太多《神雕侠侣》了。这位学生提到的爱情观，我也非常赞同，而我本身的爱情观又是什么呢？可能这其中带有些哲理，但我却认为拥有一个正确的爱情观是至关重要的。为什么呢？请让我娓娓道来。
首先，我发现现今社会有个很严重的问题。那就是离异的家庭很多，也就是说有很多离婚夫妇或单亲家庭的存在。而这些事件最大的受害者其实就是他们身边的亲人。如：我的堂姐最近正在办理离婚，而其家庭关系闹得很僵，我看了不禁叹息不已。这个严重的社会现象背后其实造成了更多的社会问题，如：孩子必须饱受父母在离婚期间的吵闹，孩子在父母离婚后的赡养问题，而最重要的是，对孩子在心理上所造成的负担和阴影，会使他们在往后的日子里对于男女关系的质疑，与否定。对于追求真爱，可能孩子已经不抱任何期望。。不仅如此，这些孩子往往都会成为学校的问题学生，因为他们已经缺乏了正确的家庭教育，以及更为重要的关爱。有谁不要得到父母的疼爱呢？
人们结婚时究竟是否把婚约当成一个永恒的承诺呢？可能有，但就在那一霎那吗？
又是否在离婚时，已经把从前美好的回忆已经淡忘了？
人们时常在抱怨，若不是为了孩子，我可能早已经离婚了。孩子本来是两人的爱情结晶，现在竟然成为了两人之间的累赘、绊脚石。我最近更听闻很多关于家庭暴力的问题，如：父母听闻老师向父母汇报孩子的状况后，竟然回家痛殴孩子，对其拳打脚踢，真是令人听闻后，痛恨得咬牙切齿。我一向认为，如果你不懂得教育孩子，请不要把他们生下来，因为他们也是有生命的。人性本善，如果这些孩子不是受到了家庭、朋友的不良影响，他们能变成问题学生吗？
哈哈，看来我的主题越扯越远了。爱情，究竟我如何看待呢？有很多学生问我有没有女朋友？ 好，我不回避问题。没有，从来也没有。你们可能认为没有女朋友就对爱情一无所知。可能吧。但我周围有很多活生生的例子，有很多向我诉说心情的朋友。我一向认为，那些一见钟情的爱情，都不会长久，那只不过是电视连续剧，爱情小说里面理想世界的例子。
在残酷的现实生活中，人们分分合合，有些是男的错，有些是女的错，但为何容许自己犯错呢？为何容许自己加入三角恋，或一脚踏两船，或有婚前性行为，让自己怀孕，或明知道与对方性格不合，却勉强要在一起，然后结婚后再后悔。这些都可以避免，只要你有了正确的爱情观，绝对能够得到你所渴望的真爱。
那么，何谓正确的爱情观呢？我认为必须先认识这个人，通过长久的相处，可能是一个月，也可能是一年，然后，在你们确定彼此都与对方互有好感后，可以尝试单独约会，更深入地认识对方，然后才决定是否要正式交往，成为正式的男女朋友。至此，双方都必须正常交往，而不能利用“性”作为一种交换条件，应该给予彼此尊重与空间。此后的一且可能还是会导致分手的局面出现，但只要不要犯下一些不应该犯的大错（如上所述），那么分手后，还是朋友。这就是我的爱情观。
我没有女朋友，就会有人问：“为什么不找呢？”
答案是：“不是我不找，我一直在寻找，只是还没找到。”
曾经有过两次心动，而且差点儿有成为男女朋友的机会，可是可能是我的问题，因为我还没准备好，不想让对方失望，不想成为伤害女人的男人，所以到了最后，我还是放弃了继续发展的机会。可能我就是喜欢找借口，但，我很珍惜与这两位女生在一起的日子，因为她们都是很好的女生。
好了，写了这么多，好累啊！改天再见。请留意了，我会带电脑到柬埔寨，因此，希望我的学生还能继续在自己的博客上发帖子。谢谢。
但古人有一句常被引用的话，问世间情为何物，直叫人生死相许。。应该是看太多《神雕侠侣》了。这位学生提到的爱情观，我也非常赞同，而我本身的爱情观又是什么呢？可能这其中带有些哲理，但我却认为拥有一个正确的爱情观是至关重要的。为什么呢？请让我娓娓道来。
首先，我发现现今社会有个很严重的问题。那就是离异的家庭很多，也就是说有很多离婚夫妇或单亲家庭的存在。而这些事件最大的受害者其实就是他们身边的亲人。如：我的堂姐最近正在办理离婚，而其家庭关系闹得很僵，我看了不禁叹息不已。这个严重的社会现象背后其实造成了更多的社会问题，如：孩子必须饱受父母在离婚期间的吵闹，孩子在父母离婚后的赡养问题，而最重要的是，对孩子在心理上所造成的负担和阴影，会使他们在往后的日子里对于男女关系的质疑，与否定。对于追求真爱，可能孩子已经不抱任何期望。。不仅如此，这些孩子往往都会成为学校的问题学生，因为他们已经缺乏了正确的家庭教育，以及更为重要的关爱。有谁不要得到父母的疼爱呢？
人们结婚时究竟是否把婚约当成一个永恒的承诺呢？可能有，但就在那一霎那吗？
又是否在离婚时，已经把从前美好的回忆已经淡忘了？
人们时常在抱怨，若不是为了孩子，我可能早已经离婚了。孩子本来是两人的爱情结晶，现在竟然成为了两人之间的累赘、绊脚石。我最近更听闻很多关于家庭暴力的问题，如：父母听闻老师向父母汇报孩子的状况后，竟然回家痛殴孩子，对其拳打脚踢，真是令人听闻后，痛恨得咬牙切齿。我一向认为，如果你不懂得教育孩子，请不要把他们生下来，因为他们也是有生命的。人性本善，如果这些孩子不是受到了家庭、朋友的不良影响，他们能变成问题学生吗？
哈哈，看来我的主题越扯越远了。爱情，究竟我如何看待呢？有很多学生问我有没有女朋友？ 好，我不回避问题。没有，从来也没有。你们可能认为没有女朋友就对爱情一无所知。可能吧。但我周围有很多活生生的例子，有很多向我诉说心情的朋友。我一向认为，那些一见钟情的爱情，都不会长久，那只不过是电视连续剧，爱情小说里面理想世界的例子。
在残酷的现实生活中，人们分分合合，有些是男的错，有些是女的错，但为何容许自己犯错呢？为何容许自己加入三角恋，或一脚踏两船，或有婚前性行为，让自己怀孕，或明知道与对方性格不合，却勉强要在一起，然后结婚后再后悔。这些都可以避免，只要你有了正确的爱情观，绝对能够得到你所渴望的真爱。
那么，何谓正确的爱情观呢？我认为必须先认识这个人，通过长久的相处，可能是一个月，也可能是一年，然后，在你们确定彼此都与对方互有好感后，可以尝试单独约会，更深入地认识对方，然后才决定是否要正式交往，成为正式的男女朋友。至此，双方都必须正常交往，而不能利用“性”作为一种交换条件，应该给予彼此尊重与空间。此后的一且可能还是会导致分手的局面出现，但只要不要犯下一些不应该犯的大错（如上所述），那么分手后，还是朋友。这就是我的爱情观。
我没有女朋友，就会有人问：“为什么不找呢？”
答案是：“不是我不找，我一直在寻找，只是还没找到。”
曾经有过两次心动，而且差点儿有成为男女朋友的机会，可是可能是我的问题，因为我还没准备好，不想让对方失望，不想成为伤害女人的男人，所以到了最后，我还是放弃了继续发展的机会。可能我就是喜欢找借口，但，我很珍惜与这两位女生在一起的日子，因为她们都是很好的女生。
好了，写了这么多，好累啊！改天再见。请留意了，我会带电脑到柬埔寨，因此，希望我的学生还能继续在自己的博客上发帖子。谢谢。
What Love means to Kids
WHAT LOVE MEANS TO AGE 4 TO 8 YEAR OLD CHILDREN
Slow down for three minutes to read this. It is so worth it.
Touching words from the mouth of Babes.
What does Love mean?
A Group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds,
'What does love mean?'
The answers they got were broader and deeper than
Anyone could have imagined. See what you think:
'When my Grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails
Anymore.
So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his Hands got arthritis too. That's love.'
Rebecca- age 8
'When
Someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.
You just know
That your name is safe in their mouth.'
Billy - age 4
'Love is
When a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out
And smell each other.'
Karl - age 5
'Love is
When you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without
Making them give you any of theirs.'
Chrissy - age 6
'Love is
What makes you smile when you're tired.'
Terri - age 4
'Love is
When my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to
Him, to make sure the taste is OK.'
Danny - age 7
'Love is
When you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want
To be together and you talk more.
My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They
Look gross when they kiss'
Emily - age 8
'Love is
what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and
Listen.'
Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)
'If you
Want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,'
Nikka - age 6
(we need a few million
More Nikka's on this planet)
'Love is
When you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.'
Noelle - age 7
'Love is
Like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after
They know each other so well.'
Tommy - age 6
'During
My piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people
Watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.
He was the only one
Doing that. I wasn't scared anymore.'
Cindy - age 8
'My mommy
Loves me more than anybody
You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep
At night.'
Clare - age 6
'Love is
When Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.'
Elaine-age 5
'Love is
when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than
Robert Redford.'
Chris - age 7
'Love is
when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day'
Mary Ann - age 4
'I know
my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go
out and buy new ones.'
Lauren - age 4
'When you
love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.'
(what an image)
Karen - age 7
'Love is
when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross.'
Mark - age 6
'You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you
should say it a lot. People forget.'
Jessica - age 8
And the
final one -- Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he
was asked to judge.
The purpose of the contest was to find the most
caring child.
The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbour was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.
Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.
When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbour, the
little boy said,
'Nothing, I just helped him cry'
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